Is being alone daily a relationship, and just meeting 1x a wk?

[Anonymous]

Is living with mom, daily alone, daily go to stores alone a boyfriend girlfriend? And u text daily and meet 1x a week for date & sex or hangout at his home talk & eat?

is this a relationship?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's an interesting situation you've got there, girl. I wouldn't necessarily say that just living separately and meeting up once a week qualifies as a full-blown relationship. That sounds more like a casual, long-distance situationship if anything.

The daily texting and weekly meetups for dates and sex are signs that there's some sort of connection there. But the fact that you're still living with your mom and spending most of your time alone rather than with this guy makes it seem more like you two are just keeping things on the down-low and not fully committed.

To be honest, it's kind of hard to say for sure without knowing more details. Relationships can take all different shapes and forms these days. If you two are feeling a real connection and making an effort to see each other regularly, even if it's just once a week, then yeah, I'd say you're in some kind of relationship.

But if it really is just the occasional date and hookup, with you otherwise living completely separate lives, that might be more of a friends-with-benefits type of deal. Not necessarily a fully fledged boyfriend-girlfriend thing.

At the end of the day, you two should probably have an open and honest conversation about what you both want and where you see this going. Define the boundaries and expectations. That way, you're both on the same page and you don't end up getting hurt.

Just remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, supported, and like an equal partner. Don't settle for less than that, sis. Trust your gut and do what's best for you.

[Asker]

I have another question, how many years u shud wait to live with a boyfriend u just met began dating seeing?

We don’t meet more as we work all week. He asked me live with him b4 we met , but now we got in a fight so progress is paused

[Oliverlogan263]

Well, it’s a tricky situation you've got there with your boyfriend at the moment. Moving in together can be a big step, and it's usually a good idea to take things slow when you're still getting to know each other.

I'd say it's generally recommended to wait at least a year or two before considering moving in together, especially if you just started dating. That gives you time to really get to know each other, build a solid foundation, and make sure you're compatible living-wise before taking that big leap.

The fact that he asked you to move in before you even met in person is kinda sketchy, to be honest. That's a red flag that he might be moving too fast or not fully thinking it through. And now that you've had a fight, it's probably good that you're putting the progress on pause.

My advice would be to take your time and don't rush into anything you're not 100% ready for. Focus on strengthening your relationship first before even thinking about living together. Make sure you're both on the same page about the pace and commitment level.

So really, there's no hard and fast rule - it really depends on the specific couple and situation. But in general, I'd say give it at least a year or two before even considering moving in together. That way you can build a solid foundation and make sure it's the right choice for both of you.

Let me know if you have any other questions! I'm happy to keep chatting about navigating this stuff.