Do men date younger women for control?

[Anonymous]

long story short a guy i noticed online ( an entertainer ) has 2 baby mothers under the age of 21. he’s 28… there is literally nothing they could have in common to even be friends due to the age gap … so why does he keep having children with basically children?

this is me basically saying how does age gaps like this work for men? do you guys really get along with younger people & fall in love? or is this like an investment for men?

[Summeroflove]

Sometimes it is for that reason other times there may be a genuine interest as where most the time I think it’s coming from a place of lust. I’m not saying these relationships can never be genuine because that’s not true but what I think it comes from is just simply lusting. Its sad when these old men are cheating or attention to cheat on their wives if they are able then eventually dump her for a younger woman.

Many people aren’t dating for love though. Many relationships are based on lust, superficiality, materialism, and a couple other things. Obviously there is people marrying for love but most marriages fail anymore.

This is what happens to most women who will marry someone rich and for the man whose marrying for the lust of a woman as well as to have shoulder candy. She will age. Her body will change maybe she gains weight or maybe just menopause and he will leave her for a younger woman. It’s sad especially if a woman genuinely did love the man she married.

[RHK36]

People assume that they age gracefully and grow wise. Most women don't. They have baggage, a poor outlook on men due to their own poor choices in men and expectations that don't align with most men at their age. That's because women's primes are in their 20s while men don't hit theirs normally until their 30s-40s. Younger women have less baggage, responsibility, want more fun, fertile etc.

The trade off is you run into more immature women, but not far different from the older ones with all the issues. Women date younger men too, ask women why I'm sure you'll get a whole list of reasons too.

In general relationships today don't work the same as 20-30 years ago because socially it's become more acceptable for casual relationships.

[JFuzion]

Your bold assumption that they couldn't possibly have anything in common is entirely inferred from the age difference rather than actually considering what the specific emotional and physical preferences, life circumstances, social interests, life goals/priorities, etc., may be and I think people who make these assumptions speaks to their own immaturity. I have had younger and older partners and have had many things in common with them.

I'm sure some men do date younger women to control them, but many men are just very young-minded and tend to mesh considerably better on an emotional and social level with younger women. Their preferences on all levels are not a choice; they do not mesh well socially with the older women, and have no inclination to be physically intimate with them. Were they to lie and lead one on just to placate societal expectations, they would truly be committing an unethical against one, because they are fully aware from the get-go that they cannot give them genuine romantic relationships.

All relationships are different and we should consider them on a case-by-case basis. Old partners can be bad, but so can young ones and it all boils down to their personality type. Bad older partners were likely once bad younger ones too. If it's the younger one who fell in love with the older person first then it's far less likely to be a problem. Also saying it's men who want control is sexist as I'm sure some women want younger partners to control them also. I would even go as far as say they want to do this more than men. And there are other differences in relationships besides just age like wealth, race, etc. You might say age is still important, but it's no excuse to restrict the freedom of choice of people to date who they want and judge them negatively regardless of age gap so long as it's legal and they genuinely like each other. I think people over think it and should just go with their gut.

[Berethor]

28 is old? can be control but it usually for better looks and less baggage, also high fertility.

[Anonymous]

Some might. But most guys date them because younger women typically are just game for whatever. Younger women haven't had the years to get old angry and bitter. It's just easier dealing with a woman that hasn't built walls he'd have to knock down and climb over.

[Asker]

What’s the difference between walls and expectations? It sounds like you’re describing expectations, but I could be wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

Expectations is typically something that comes from upbringing. A woman has those ingrained in her. Walls are usually built from bad experiences. The older a woman get the more liklihood she's made bad choices, and built a wall so she never has 5hat bad experience again. Well a guy doesn't want to contend with all those ghosts in her life. It's just easier to date a younger woman that has not had those bad experiences yet and just has a more positive outlook.
Ifyou want to look at that as control that's up to you. To me control is control. This is just wanting to date someone with a positive attitude.

[Asker]

oh! Very well said! So it’s like you have more of an opportunity?

[Opinion Owner]

More of an opportunity for having a pleasant date. Would you want to date a guy that said "all women lie, a women cheat, and all women are gold diggers"? No! Why would you. Well guys don't want to date a woman who's negative toward them from start point go either.
For all my talk here I've never dated a woman more than 15 years my junior. And I probably would never do it again. I think when there's a age difference more than q0 years. The two people have a hard time finding common ground. I wouldn't recommend anyone lol outside that 10 year range.

[WhiteThought]

No, they date younger women because they are physically more attractive, and because they are less of a headache.

[wkhan_87]

I don't know , but some younger women wants elder men..

[Asker]

true!

[wkhan_87]

I have experienced

[Asker]

so do you think it was just because you have resources because you’re older or was it genuinely you? Also not to be disrespectful I just don’t understand so I’m asking.

[wkhan_87]

I can't share but i talked a very young girl about that , and her opinion was just shocked to me

[jahaims]

Some do

[Pterodon]

I didn’t