When she stops chasing… what do you actually feel?

[Anonymous]

Let’s say you were casually dating a girl for a couple of months. Things were good, maybe even great. But over a short span of time, like 2 weeks, you started pulling back. Less texting, less effort.

Maybe because things were getting too real, you’re overwhelmed from work, maybe dating other people too. Maybe you got too comfortable and didn’t think you had to try very hard to get her to like you. Then, the girl goes into total silence. No reaching out, no checking in.

What honestly goes through your head when that happens?

Do you feel confused, relieved, curious? Do you assume she’s over it, or does it ever make you rethink things?

If she’s clearly living a full life without you, and you see her doing so through her social media, does that make you want her more and reignite the desire to chase?

[BonzoInBitburg]

The slow fade pull back is a way of breaking things off without actually saying it so when she goes silent it's usually a relief for a guy. They might do this for someone they consider nice and they don't want to hurt her but they just don't see the relationship going anywhere. It's a bit gutless tbh

[Asker]

He was the one who said he wanted to hear where my head was at and learn about my expectations though. He brought up expectations, I merely said I just wanted to make sure we’re still on the same page. I was just trying to makeout and spend quality time together

[McSteamy]

Basically the excitement fades away after a certain point. They still care for you though. It's like they treat you like their family member. Do you have attraction on your family members? No right? That answers your question.

[Anonymous]

She was never really that interested. And she found what she really wanted instead, some other guy. She just saved me some heartbreak.👍

[wolverin38]

Just relax and give it some time.

[Asker]

Ok, I’m trying to be patient. I just really liked him. It is a bit hard to relax though.

I haven’t replied to his last text that he sent on Monday because he told me he would listen to my voice message after dinner and then never circled back. It’s now Saturday and he’s been stalking my IG.

I’ve been living my life and staying busy. Not posting every day on stories but he’s definitely watching. It was just such a quick switch up.. the last time we were together, I thought for a second he was about to tell me he loved me when we were saying goodbye. (Thank goodness he didn’t bc I’m not ready for that yet) and then for it to just.. switch? It’s confusing.

[wolverin38]

I understand that the only solution is to give it time.

[Asker]

You were right. He ended up triple texting me long messages and messaging me on IG. I haven’t replied yet. Reclaiming myself currently