How many times on a first date did you ever think it would turn into something good?

[NoDecision]

I'm not talking sex here, but getting that feeling that this might turn into something more?

[Anonymous]

I had a few dates with a woman that I personally thought was VERY cute - a little more my style. I was nervous and a bit shy. It was hard to define. The first date went ok, and she showed up, so in my head, THAT by itself was a win. We actually did have three dates, but by the second or third, I assumed she wasn't REALLY interested. I DID NOT think she was using me for free dinner or anything (there was some give with the take)... and some stuff she did was REALLY... endearing, but she'd do other stuff that to me said she wasn't that interested.

The first date, I was torn between thinking she wasn't interested, or she would probably prefer dating someone more... analytical (I am artistic, which I didn't think would be her thing) and just feeling like the luckiest dude in the world for getting to take her outeven just once. We got along decently, but I know I was nervous and shy, so it felt a little awkward... But I was torn between: "Hey, opposites DO sometimes attract": and "Oh, I don't think she'd really be into getting into a relationship with me. It's a decent fit, I think we'd be good to each other if things did progress a little, but I didn't feel like it was an obvious match:

I was totally interested, though not if she wasn't into me. I didn't want to force a relationship if she wasn't feeling it. She made me a bit foggy in the head. ::I'd swear I could hear Gary Wright's Dreamweaver in my head any time I looked at her... which didn't always happen on dates (or even with girlfriends):: ;)

That was probably the "easiest" or most natural semi successful date (s) that I'd been on.

[Staximus]

I saw a future with this girl I already knew who asked me out on a date. The date went perfect, but my career and my love nest didn't meet her requirements for having a child with me. She was baby crazy because she was pushing 40 and divorced, and her son had died a few years before. She stopped returning my calls and texts when I asked her out again, even though she said she wanted to go out again soon on our first date. The funny thing is she showed up where she knew I would be when my friend's band would play at the local bar. Two different times she had some guy with her who she'd leave at the bar while she was chatting me up for an inappropriate amount of time when you're on a date with somebody else. She still stalks me on Facebook to this day.

[NoDecision]

Sounds like you missed a bullet on this one. She doesn't seem that she could be honest about anything. In fact, if you had never said that she was a female I would swear it was a guy you were talking about.

[Staximus]

She was honest about wanting to have a baby in the near future, and I was honest and said that I was not in a financial position to provide for a mother and child at that present juncture. She got pregnant and married and had a baby, I think with some dude from her church. She's pretty religious. I told her that I'm cool with her going to church but I never will, she probably didn't like that too much.

[NoDecision]

Well, you are better off as there would have been friction due to that forever. Did she get pregnant first or married first?

[Staximus]

I'm not sure. She was either pregnant right before or right after the marriage

[NoDecision]

I was going to say, that if it was before than she wasn't that religious after all.

[DishLady]

I'm selective with who I date, so I already have the feeling beforehand that there's potential. The dates are just a test run.

[Purpleronnie]

I’d have to say almost never , even though I’m fairly certain this NEVER happened. It takes meeting a few times to know there is something definitely there to build upon. I don’t know of anyone in my life , past or present , who be absolutely certain of a future after 1 date or a few hours.


Perhaps cynical , but it would seem to me these days that people expect to know on that first date , or don’t look hard enough at the other they choose to date. Maybe writing them off completely for one of these super judgy so called “red flags”. Like dating is some sorts of weighted points system , based on , but not limited to a scale of body measurements, objective attractiveness & salary followed up by a dissection of their “flag” count. Obviously flags further weighted by how other scores on the first 3 🤣😁

[LiamJHayden]

I have no expectations of good or bad on a first date. Most of the women I've dated have been nervous, even if they exhibited a false bravado. I just want to get to know her to see if there might be potential.

[NoDecision]

Good to know that both women and men get nervous on the first date. The only one who might not be is a player, just trying to get a slice of pie.

[Zack-Bann]

a few times
It’s rare though


I can think of two clear instances where I did feel that way and in both cases I didn’t get a second date


(But I did hook up with one of them)


It’s a bitter sweet feeling:
Knowing you’re capable of being hopeful.
But also failing at making anything happen

[NathanDavis]

every single time, but... I only went out with people who I already knew were into me so and I was into them so... it was pretty much a given

[exitseven]

I am always the optimist. Only a couple of times did I think it would end badly.

[IAlwaysBeBack]

Every single time.

I'm not miss desperado that will date whatever.

[IAlwaysBeBack]

But now I know God didn't create us all as equals. So many low quality adults today who can't find themselves a partner because they ain't good enough for anyone.

[NoDecision]

Or, they go for the ones like themselves because they feel that they aren't good enough for anyone else.

[D_Bone_Steak]

More than I can count or probably remember... I lost track of that shit before I hit my 20's. Kinda like my bodycount.

[TheoreticallyGreat]

Twice. The woman before my wife and my wife. Upon realizing things really wouldn't workout with the previous woman I was pretty much devastated as I truly loved her.

My wife made up for that though

[fonduegirl]

I usually don't think about future. Hence I stopped dating

[qwerty2469]

It was on a first date that I realized it was with the wrong person. I marriednthe right person and have been unhappilly married for 20 years.

[NoDecision]

I would have gone back to the "wrong" person. 😯

[qwerty2469]

I wouldn't. The genes were better the wrong woman gave me 3 fantastic amazing daughters and takes care of them. The other would have just made me happy. My happiness as a father is irrelevant

[NoDecision]

Sounds you are totally mixed up about love and marriage, which go together like a horse and carriage.

[qwerty2469]

How many people 43 and over do you know still married and with 3 beautiful Daughters top of their class academically, in sports, amd in the arts. Thats worth more than being happy with a silly woman if you ask any man.

[WhitneySnow]

A few. Most of the time I was right.

[bowenw]

All first dates.

[NoDecision]

I like your optimism.

[Finchie40]

All of them ,

[Vegasrunner]

Everyone except one.

[Anonymous]

I never had a first date :(

[Sam1133]

Not a single time 💀