Would you date someone who is overweight?

Question

I dropped from 80 kilos to 68 kilos. I can never change my body again. And I will not accept a fat person. What if I eat their food and then get fat? It's a risk. You'll look like whoever you live with.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

There's underweight, normal, overweight, fat and obese. They're all along a spectrum of weight.

Studies have shown that if you hang out with unhealthy people who eat poorly, you'll likely end up looking like them. And I'm not talking about who you "live" with. This occurred among people who considered themselves friends and simply hung out together.

Remember, no one forces you to eat anyone's food. You are in complete control over what you put in your mouth and how much exercise you perform.

If you have struggled with weight, you'll have to be vigilant your whole life. You have to make that clear no mater who you're with. "I can't eat (X). No, I'll have to be a fruit bowl, not the pudding. I'd prefer baked chicken over fried. (you're offered a choice.). The fish is great and load me up with salad."

Advocate for the foods you're willing to eat over those you won't. You'll get teased sometimes, but so what. It's your body and your health you're taking care of. Ignore people who act ignorantly toward you about this issue. Good luck.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've dated fat people and skinny people I've gained weight in my now relationship ans he's 6'7 and 180 pounds lol im 230 pounds it's not weight that determines love lol I gained because I didn't worry anymore im working on losing weight because I want to not because of him he loves the curves lol

Keyboardkat · Accepted Answer

I'm glad your weight loss program worked for you. But you cannot extrapolate from that and decide that anyone overweight is to 100% to blame for the condition! This is a MEDICAL problem, NOT a moral one! What worked for you may not work for someone else. A metabolic problem is not something to make fun of. Remember, as human beings, we are not mass-produced! We are NOT all exactly the same, mentally, biologically, physiologically. So get off your high horse and show a little humility.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I went from 134 kg to 100kg
Now stable at 107 kg
I’m also 190 cm tall and workout a lot so muscle mass is a big part of that

I know what’s like to battle fatness
And I wouldn’t want to date someone actively overeating like there’s no tomorrow

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, as long as she’s isn’t obese

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You know those before and after pictures of different drugs...

Would you date someone who is overweight?

Well, I think that being too lazy to be physically active or too gluttonous to stop eating bad shit is just as bad. They have a problem and they're usually not even trying to work on it.

Tarifa · Answer

I had a similar experience as yourself, dropping from 80 kg to the low 70s. I'm not quite where I want to be yet, but I have changed certain habits.

As far as your question is concerned, if I dated someone or lived with someone who was overweight, it would be a natural thing for me to help them on this journey. But the important thing is what they want. You can't help someone who doesn't accept help.

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

If I ever get single again, yes I would - I actually like men with a little on the side, wouldn't be able to tell with who I picked tho. 😂

I think I'd be able to manage my weight despite of being with a fatter dude, my skinny dude eats like crap and I still manage to eat healthy when I remember too. 😂

OneViewpoint · Answer

No, I've always been fit and obesity is a turnoff for me for a lot of reasons. Looks, health, longevity, and what it says about discipline vs laziness. Doesn't mean an overweight person is not a great person. They just come with too much baggage for me.

Twalli · Answer

A particular food won't get you fat. A lot of food or high fat food will get you fat. Even then it's not an instant change. Also, if you want you can make food for both of you that won't make you fat and may help them lose weight. I would date them if they're trying to lose weight before I meet them. Anyone who changes their weight for someone else isn't someone you should date.

HighValue · Answer

No. Women bring very little value to a relationship to begin with and if she isn't even in decent shape, why bother. Also, most women that were fat and lose weight end up getting very fat once they are in a relationship for a while because they tend to be lazy and complacent.

Mpodere · Answer

I think obviously a fit woman is more attractive. If she has a few excess pounds it is not a big deal, the important thing is that she is not obese!
It is also true that to demand a fit partner one should be fit first!
Do you agree?

EmmaMary · Answer

@red-lipstick-girl  Wow... Many congratulations on your incredible weight loss achievement... You look absolutely amazing... And please stick to your principles. 💕

Foxeyes · Answer

I would not mind overweight but not someone that doesn’t take care of them selves, like not working out at all or eating only takeout and fast food

FreyaRed · Answer

5-10kg too much maybe, someone who is morbidly obese, no I wouldn't. Congrats to weight loss

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Yeah I don't mind as long as he is cute and can fuck good..

4ngelic · Answer

if they're barely yes like a bmi of 25-26. but if they're pushing a bmi of 30 i couldnt

CarolinaCutie5 · Answer

No, with that big of a weight loss comes saggy skin. I couldn't deal with that

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, since overweight could mean anything.. She could be overweight because she has a bit more fat in the booty or tat tat area.. But yeah as long as it's not crazy, and the weight distribution is good..

AaronKrieger · Answer

Sure, I have before  and it's attractive. It wasn't any different than dating a skinny girl besides for intimate  (not in a bad way either).

RHK36 · Answer

Yes, and I guess it would more depend on why they are overweight and are they actively trying to be healthy.

silvermoon84 · Answer

I’m a big girl myself. My last ex was 6’4” and had Homer Simpson’s body, so yes I would date an overweight person if the conversation was good and the chemistry was right.

eagleriverjohn · Answer

I probably would, but as someone who is overweight myself, I would definitely prefer to date a girl who could help me with my confidence in losing weight.

Shiprex · Answer

I have and would again. I have been at my current weight since I was in my 20s. Tried bulking up with gym and rose less than 10%. Never had issues keeping tje weight im at but also live pretty healthy as it is.

Zylos · Answer

Not someone who was really fat, but I'm pretty tolerant towards thickness/curves. I am naturally slim myself, so I am more attracted to women with a bit of fat on them.

grungeberry · Answer

Were you once fat? I’m confused? That person can change just as you did. Overweight isn’t necessarily fat.

Grond21 · Answer

Both my fiance and I are overweight. We are both going to exercise a lot after we get married though.

Berethor · Answer

Maybe not if she too overweight, but I don't care if a woman is little overweight.

Katrina5 · Answer

A little sure not to point they over indulge to point they collapse on you they a heart issue then they fall on you your stock their or dead cause your heads meet. Or the roll over on you.

Anonymous · Answer

If they are a little fat yes.  If they are really fat no

WhiteThought · Answer

Define overweight? Because if you are going by BMI, a woman can be overweight and be insanely hot. If you mean someone like Lizzo, then hell no.

queenofcardio · Answer

Depends on how much overweight. I live an active lifestyle

236color · Answer

I and my wife are both overweight, and to one degree or another, pretty much always have been.

Levin · Answer

I can't. I strength train but I'm naturally skinny. It wouldn't work.

Mark987 · Answer

This is my honest truth. When I lost my virginity I was a big bigger and so was she. We dated for 10 months. In my expereince women who are a big chubbier or way more hornier

Jerre · Answer

It would all depend on how much she was overweight

RavVid · Answer

Not for me thank you. It is slender or nuthin.

Bricealan · Answer

@red-lipstick-girl I don't/won't date overweight women... I weigh 65 kilos

soe11 · Answer

No overweight for me. My current girlfriend is healthy slim, stunning sexy.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what you consider overweight. I'm not going to date anyone I'm not attracted to. But one of the last women I was attracted to was 225lbs. Of course she was 5'10" as well. She was hotter than hell.

exitseven · Answer

the softer the cushion, the better the pushin'

WonderingManII · Answer

I never had an overweight person even like me.

Dongie · Answer

Yep, if her person was attractive as in how she is.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Lol yes I would and you shouldn't feel that way cause if you have self control you'll never get fat again

MOUTHWASHING · Answer

Never. It is not only ugly but also unhealthy and unmotivated.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Why would a handsome Brady want a fat broad?

nawtee_me · Answer

Depending on how much overweight she is. (My 600 pound girlfriend) No!

robocop666 · Answer

a seriously hot woman wants to be in bed with me. She occasionally gains weight. She is still hot.

alice55 · Answer

if I like their face and personality yes

elizamichale1 · Answer

No i wouldn't... sorry

Paige90 · Answer

No I wouldn't!

sinestro23 · Answer

nope i would never

Brittanyrunner06 · Answer

Yes, if we had a deep enough connection.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yeah i prefer a guy with a little chub

Tovarich · Answer

Nope, I can't be attracted to anyone who is fat

msc545 · Answer

Of course not. Fat is unattractive.

hello4433 · Answer

Exercise regularly to avoid it

FenixG45 · Answer

I would if I found them attractive

Anonymous · Answer

No I wouldn't.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Overweight, yes. Obese, no

dudeinohio · Answer

Sure.

Chrissywakeup · Answer

Yesss

qwerty2469 · Answer

Fuck no

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