Dating is scary, how do I get over it? (23F)?

[Anonymous]

I used to be open to dating a few years ago before my first boyfriend, but once we neared the end of our break up he started posting racist things on x, recorded us having sex without asking and told me he’d shoot my dad. It wasn’t until after the break up I started seeing posts by men openly saying that they see women as walking incubators and how women should obey them that put me into this mindset of not wanting to date anymore. It seems like the more posts I see the more scared I get, even with these tea apps that were created to “help” with dating it seems the men’s app has taken a turn for the worse as some of them are posting the girls nudes and others along side that. I’m not sure how to overcome this sudden fear or if I should just remain alone.

[ohsheeT]

No what you need to do is know who the person is. Really is before you even start dating. There are ways to know exactly who you're dating. And what they are capable of doing I mean within weeks of dating the person

Dont let this guy or any guy hold you back from you being you and if he threaten you in any way. There's ways to fix that too


I would like to say 1 guy out of 100 is like your x. But to be honest I dont know. But I do know there are guys out there that would never do that

[Ask105]

Well are you picking good men probably not because thats not what you actually want unless you become the last 1 percent of the last woman or i would wait till you’re little older and learn what a good man looks like

[TrimmedTip]

Your fear is valid, but don’t let a few bad apples ruin love for you. Start small—coffee dates in public, clear boundaries, and trust your gut. Mute toxic online spaces; real-life men aren’t all like that. Healing isn’t linear, but you’re stronger than your trauma.

[slatyb]

You should date cautiously. Don't get too invested until you know who the guy really is.

[Anonymous]

Try dating black guys instead. They're better at sex anyway :)

[Asker]

… nah i’m good, I’m already black that’s enough for me

[Anonymous]

What's the problem. It sounds like you make good choices.😆🙃

[Darklydarkened]

It's not dating, but gen Z men scare even my ffs

[SotiCoto]

Just don't do it then... obviously.