When do I know my loneliness needs therapeutic attention?

[Anonymous]

I know that I’m still young and the right person isn’t here for me yet but it gets to a point. I’ve never dated or been romantically involved with anyone. I’m so romance-starved that I get super delusional about any crumb of attention from a guy I find even the slightest attractive. Not only that I also assume every guy is into me? I know for a fact that it’s all in my head but how do I even stop it? Tell me why my delusion radar just went off because this dude was being nice to me? I’m pretty sure he’s genuinely just a kind and attentive dude ( he’s also very much happily married like wtf is wrong with me?) I just don’t wanna live like this. Do I need professional help? And sometimes I catch myself believing those delusions too like WHATT?

[ohsheeT]

Wait wait wait a min. What you need is a good friend girl friend. A guy friend that you can talk with until he comes a long

In my own way im right where you are. But I have friendsvi have meant on line I role play sometimes and that is one if the best things in the world because you can act things out. Experience things and you never know what's going to happen


Before you go and start spending money fir answers you all ready have with in you dm me let me try to explain a few thing to you that I really think it could help you. As a person

[Anonymous]

I'm almost 50 hun and have ALWAYS been single. It's not a fatal condition. You know how you make yourself feel better? In about 6 to 12 years half your peers are going to be getting thier FIRST divorce. If thier lucky thier finances won't be completely devastated by it. And they'll be telling you you were smart for staying single.

The REALITY is half the people you see in relationships are miserable. And I'll tell you what's worse than be ALONE. It's being in a relationship and being alone. 👍💯

[Asker]

No it’s not about staying single it’s about my delusions. Please read the detail I provided

[Opinion Owner]

I never said it was about being single. But it is about loving yourself and your situation. I read your details, it doesn't change my response. If you want to wallow, that's your decision. But you asked for help and I provided it.👍

[Asker]

I’m asking whether or not I should get help with my delusions because I feel like it’s slowly getting serious

[Asker]

But thank you anyway. However I just don’t think this is helpful and I’m sorry to say it. I’ve been told this multiple times and ofc I tried to love myself, building self-esteem and all but I don’t feel like it improves. Yk like I just don’t even know how I can stop longing for that human connection. I tried every hobby and still nothing seems to fill that void yk. I think It doesn’t mean I don’t love myself, it just means I crave romantic experience, I’m curious about it. Is it impossible to crave connection without it being interpreted as external validation-seeking? I don’t think I believe my self-worth is tied to that but I do question whether or not it is, sometimes because I long for it so much. I know relationships aren’t all sunshine and rainbows but can’t a girl be curious about something everyone else is experiencing? I have given up on friendship because no matter how hard I try I always end up being the floater friend, the problem solver friend, the one people walk all over cuz when I consider someone as important I let things slide. And I also suck at keeping contact because I had been made to feel like a burden so much in the past for simply reaching out. I just kinda accepted that I’m not the kind people deem worthy of a friendship. Nonetheless, I’ll always be open to friendships. I love having girl friends even if the ones I’d met so far aren’t that great.

[sayan7]

I think you should definitely appoint a therapist, cause loneliness is one of the most major reasons of depression and...

[Danny_dan92]

You asking questions like this

[Asker]

I don't know where else to ask. I asked this on quora and nobody answers so. Reddit? Forget about it

[Danny_dan92]

Again, when you’re asking questions like this it is because being lonely is getting to your psyche

[Asker]

I know it is. One of these days I’m gonna become that Kendra lady on Tiktok

[Danny_dan92]

Fuck tik tok