Is it harder for guys to know how attractive they are than it is for women to?

[Anonymous]

Yes

If the guys aren't very unattractive or model level yes

No, I think it's easier

No, I think it's the same

[4ngelic]

I think it's actually harder for girls (but i can't say for sure, i dont know how guys experience certain things). Wether you're really pretty, cute, average or slightly unattractive, you're going to get people telling you you are pretty or some variants of that often regardless of wether those things are true or not. there's a bunch of different reasons why, but it's something you hear easy. I'm only a 5-6/10 and even when i was fat, i was often told i'm pretty and given compliments on my appearance from a wide variety of people. The other reason why it's harder for us maybe, is that guys honestly have no standards for who they fuck and constantely approach anyone remotely bangable. conventional wisdom will tell you that if people want to fuck you and approach you especially often, it means you're hot. but not for women. even fat girls and the blandest of the bland get hit on somewhat often. i still got attention when i was fat, less, but still a decent amount. some people forget that it's not just hot people who get the privilege of being lusted after. if you get attention it just means you're not dog shit ugly. Also as a girl your fuck league is not the same as your dating league. It can cause some confusion to some people about where they stand. As an average looking girl, i know that i can sleep with/get sexual attention from attractive guys (not crazily hot ones obviously, but solidely good looking ones), i have. But i've never had a guy like that have a crush on me. The guys who like me like that, have usually been 5.5 - low 6s.

I think for guys it's more straightforward. if you're ugly, you're invisible and get no pussy. if you're average looking, only average looking girls are into you and you dont get that many compliments on your looks besides from your gfs and family members. and when you ask where you stand people tell you you're average and dont try to tell you sweet lies so you dont get offended you're not a model. if you're hot, women will tell you a lot, pretty girls will be interested in dating you, a lot more girls will have crushes on you, etc

[Xoxocutekitty]

This

[Kelley1]

Only 20% of men vs. 40% of women are considered attractive, but whether men or women, if they are attractive, they know it.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I voted yes based on my perspective. I don't have the ability to tell if men in general are attractive or not. I can make educated guesses like if the dude is ripped or looks like he might be able to win a fight against me, but I have no idea why Twilight loving chicks like that vampire dude... he looks like a gay twink to me. I could crush his skull with one slam of my fist.

With that said, of course this carries over to myself in the mirror. Start getting a beer gut, bitches don't try to seduce me anymore. Hit the weights hard and stay lean, bitches try to seduce me again. That's about as much as I can figure out. Ask me about chicks though and I have no issues.

My theory... I think some guys are just gay enough that they can tell what other guys look like. As for females, science has already proven they all can tell what other females look like and even the one's that claim they're straight, get physically aroused when watching girl on girl porn. The theory for as to why is because women treat other women as competition and I would just add to that theory my own theory that pussy is just so great, everybody likes it.

Anyways I voted yes, it's more difficult for me to figure out how attractive I am. Women seem to know when about themselves when they're on they're own, unless it's a group of women... that's when all the hot ones gas up the ugly ones and make them think they're hawter than they are... because girls are mean to girls like that. They're competition is all.

[Summeroflove]

It really depends some people get more attention and are more observant then others but a lot of people get normalized to it. Let’s say for instance more women may randomly say something to these attractive men but they simply take it as being friendly. As where a more unattractive man doesn’t get as much attention may take genuinely friendly gestures as attraction due to the lesser frequency.

You may notice getting special attention from female waitresses, retail clerks, gas stations attendants, etc. You may get comped things on a more frequent basis and this may just become normal to you. You may not question it at all…

But men who are more attractive then other men can definitely tell they get more attention from females.

[OneViewpoint]

Depends on the guy's self awareness. Some guys are clueless. Some guys have low self esteem. It took me a while to catch on but as @summeroflove mentioned, I get comped drinks. I get seats reserved without asking. Women buy me drinks. Managers and owners stop by to greet me. Women flirt with me, constantly, single and married. Age 25 to 50.

[Summeroflove]

Agreed. But women wonder why “why don’t the guys I want ever approach me” the truth is the men who are the most attractive don’t have to approach random women.

More women come to them sometimes directly “I want a date” but also in other ways. As well as women in their orbit already.

[OneViewpoint]

@Summeroflove ,

I hate to sound like an asshole but I see other guys saying they get rejected all the time and they never get compliments. That just isn't my experience. And it's not my fault, LOL. I do NOT make it easy for a woman to approach me. Especially the married ones.

I get compliments all the time. On my cologne, always looking "put together", my watch, my bracelet, my tie tack, my shoes, a sweater, my hair, my skin, my shirt, my drink choice, my quiet aloof nature. What I get is the impression women are really trying to come up with anything to start a conversation and they actually put some effort into it.

So women can and absolutely will approach a man. And they will hand out compliments. If they want to. Not really much different from what men do. But they are generally VERY nervous about it in obvious ways.

[Summeroflove]

The married and taken ones are the most awkward. There are girls too that are so nice to be and as soon as their boyfriend comes around they won’t even make eye contact.

Some people are also asshoels to attractive people. Men who are insecure and women who figure you’ll reject them so they’re rejecting you before you can reject them. Even without cause will be asses

[Summeroflove]

Women can be more nervous for sure. There are some super confident women who will lay it on thick.

Married ones can be weird because it can seem very innocent and if you’re not careful

[OneViewpoint]

@Summeroflove,

In the past year I've had 2 husbands want to fight me.

The first guy was a bald headed gym rat who decided his wife was paying too much attention to me. I was sitting nowhere near her and hadn't even spoken to her. Truth is she was treating him like her little bitch. She and her friends were totally ignoring the guy and chatting up some of my friends. But for some reason he singled me out. My friend pushed him backwards and took him about 30 feet away and explained who/what I am and what I'm capable of. They guy wasn't buying it. My friend finally threw up his hands and told the gym rat, OK but he can kill you and stepped aside. When finally confronted with following through, the gym rat stopped and thanked my friend and sat down far away from us. Welcome to my Friday nights.

The second husband is a huge marshmallow. And he gets drunk easily. His wife doesn't respect him and she hit's on me in front of him all the time. Sometimes I think the guy is gonna cry. He's nervous as a cat on a hot tin roof when she's in the same room with me. Mind you, I do everything I can to keep her and her friends at arms length. Polite but, short replies. Anyway he did something that violated my boundaries out of being drunk and trying to get another woman to focus on me without even asking. I grabbed his hand and splayed his fingers and told him if he ever does anything like that again I'll break every finger on both his hands. The butthurt impotent howling was hilarious. He announced to everyone he was done with me and that I was a bad person. Guilty, so what. When they left, his wife came over and gave me a big hug. A week later she came over and greeted me and gave me another big hug. I told her she's not allowed to talk to me because her husband's all butthurt. Her response? Fuck him! And welcome to another Friday night for me.

Other guys just get moody or passive aggressive. Fuck it. I can't be bothered worrying about every insecure asshole in the world.

[Summeroflove]

Men get insecure especially if you later find out their wives are unfaithful… Which is what I’ve realized these men know deep down they’re being cheated on and they’re too scared to confront their wives about it so they try to prove something to them

[Summeroflove]

I’ve noticed too that some dudes are cool until their wife shows up. I generally feel too bad for these dudes to take it personally. Last thing I want to do is humiliate one of these men in front of his wife. But if I have to defend myself if someone isn’t coming at me with a just cause.

I would understand if I was hitting on someone’s wife. But you have to be careful even around so called Christian women.

There is this new trad wife craze…. But I’ve found most these women are WORSE… being away from their husbands all the time. If you work in law care or pest control when husbands are gone and the wife refuses to mow the lawn or anything. You’ll notice these women can be the most flirty.

Not uncommon for them to start off innocent with a glass of water or sweet tea. Maybe as far as making you lunch…. It could obviously be a harmless very nice gesture. But then they start talking to you and telling you about their marriage issues.

Sorry I have to get back to work

[Summeroflove]

Working at a grocery store as well during the daytime… It’s weird that they have successful husbands yet will stand around talking to a 20 year old guy working at the store.

Being home during the day and shopping during the daytime hours. Being at the park going for walks…. The moms watching their kids. It’s not uncommon for them to strike up conversations.

[Summeroflove]

I’ve never understood cheating on a man working to provide for you so that you get to stay home… But I keep my distance from these women. I’m respectful and I understand not all of them are probably flirting.

But. You let things go too far…. It can get bad. Last thing I want to do is end up getting shot by a jealous husband coming home finding his wife with me.

[Summeroflove]

Hate to get off on a side rant. I’m not saying traditional marriages are bad if that’s what people want. But as the old saying goes you cannot turn a hoe into a housewife.

A lot of men think that all the sudden they marry a woman and make her a stay at home mom that she will never cheat. By far some of these women are of the worst.

Even compared to nurses and law enforcement…. The ones who have husbands in the military I’ve been genuinely disgusted how many will have affairs while their husband may never come home and will brazenly brag about it behind their husbands backs

[Anonymous]

Yes, because women do everything they can to not feed that at all. So men have to learn resiliency. Eventually, guys LEARN that attraction to women follows no real discernable pattern. It is STRONGLY influenced by her feelings and senses, which ironically make NO SENSE.😆 but it can be influenced by scents and PERCIEVED (confidence). Most women aren't actually smart enough to deduce real confidence. It can also be influenced by the guy making himself seen. A lot of guys are invisible to women because they choose to by their actions or lack of actions.

[Zack-Bann]

It’s the same
Both men and women underestimate and overestimate themselves when it comes to these things


Everyone operates on the premise that they are “average” but some people are above average and others below it


Doesn’t mean they’re self aware enough to see it

[slatyb]

I sometimes see very attractive women and I tell them they are without hitting on them and mostly they are genuinely surprised. I saw a woman last week with a perfect short haircut and an Audrey Hepburn face. I said "great cut" and she said thanks and "I'm still getting used to it." So I told her it looks fantastic and she did too and she seemed to be amazed to hear that.

[Joshydavid25]

It's probably easier because people are less likely to give guys compliments on their physical appearance.. So if you're getting a few more compliments or looks than the average guy then I'd say that that's a good indicator.. Whereas with women get compliments one way or another.. Even if they're plain..

[Anonymous]

No, it’s easier for them to insinuate they’re attractive when they’re not. One pretty girl tells them they like them or gives them a chance and they become the most insanely delusional man on earth. Have you seen some of the models’ husbands? Monica Belluci and Adrianna Limas husband for instance? But for woman, it’s the opposite, I’ve seen some gorgeous women underestimate themselves and constantly belittle their looks.

[Nikki1989]

It is never hard if you own a mirror and some basic common sense, but this is gag after all.

[MemeSupreme]

probably but idkk if its hard in general for them to

[FunkyMonkee]

Yes, especially when everyone tells you that you're ugly.

[Anonymous]

The saying goes " men are attractive once you get to know them, but women are attractive UNTILL you get to know them," that hits hard

[qwerty2469]

American guys just eat shit all day from American women, their kids, everything. Thats why American men are marrying Asian women en masse

[Pohjolan]

Obviously. Guys have to go out of their way to find out while a woman gets reminded of it.

[blackeagle007]

I haven’t dated in forever. No woman approaches. So I’m convinced I’m unattractive

[Jltakk]

Yes it is, because they don't get approached first usually, so naturally they wouldn't know.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's much harder for guys to know that.

[Anonymous]

Some men are deluded.

Some guy on here rated a model a 5 and himself a 7 💀

[Anonymous]

I have had women make a fuss of me and people were taking notice. I know I am good looking. This has happened many times.

[queenofcardio]

I think so yeah.

[Rides_Big_Guys]

Attractive means diff things.

[UniquelyBasic]

Nah, I'm sexy as hell 😏