I think I'm his rebound but also does he think im his safe space?

[Anonymous]

After several months of not seeing each other , I'm so stupid, I let him makeout with me, everything he sent and ask for , was basically lust. Now I didn't sleep with him like he wanted or let him eat me, but I gave him stuff and he poked me. When we got in the car, he asked if he could be honest and said we should lay low on the casual hookups because he's trying to better himself and our friendship. (Mine you he made all the first moves &im his ex) Then he was talking about he doesn't like casual and not getting what he wants from someone he has feelings for. He started talking about this girl he met a year ago and how he's been off and on with her. She wants to stay single. I call it karma because that's what he did to me. And I thought I could enjoy my work with it being ruined by talking about another girl
I can't do this any more, it's annoying

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9 mo

Also can someone explain why he choose that moment to get into his feelings, like what did I do to make you talk about why can't I (he) be with her?

[ohsheeT]

I see it as all being a manipulation to get him what he wants from you.

And you have to understand when he started doing stuff with you
You could have said no

And by allowing him to do it your telling him you wanted it to

And I can hear you talking your self into being his safe place. Because. If you think that your are. Then that give t you a reason to be around him

Because now you know that he will probably want to do something if you are around him.
So even though you're saying no i dont want , want this if he does do it, you have an excuse. For it all.. because. I can feel. You right now and your very lonely

[WhitneySnow]

Dump this guy. Stop making out with him and especially stop giving him orgasms. It’ll only break your heart.

[Anonymous]

What kind of stuff did you give him? How did he poke you?