Red flag or nah?

Question

So I met this guy on a dating app, immediately hit it off. He asked me out after 2 days and went on a date 3 days later.

picked me up from my aunts house and introduced himself there, bought me flowers and a small plushie went on a amazing first date and held hands. Asked me at the end if I want to make it official , said, while I do really like him , no but I will say yes in the future.
next day we joked around over text and I said he would loose in a play fight. It was late almost midnight.
he then asked me multiple times for my address and said he want to come over for a play fight rn. I declined multiple times he then said in joke , shut your bitch ass up , and called me a chicken.

Had a friend check and he is continuing to be very active on the dating app.

I do not want to waste my time, and he seemed to sweet and genuine.

but now the vibe seems off.

am I just being a women or is this actually a red flag?

thanks guys 🫶🏽

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Run. Run fast that is the biggest red flag. Listen when people talk to you. Are they talking anybody? If you listen to them, they will tell you exactly who they are. This guy did way more than that  Just by the words that he used fight a play fight and he wants to come over and do that with you. What he means is. He wants to wrestle around with you and force you into certain moves. Because he's aggressive. Who wants to play Fight? That's the last thing in the world. Anybody wants to do is fight, especially in the very beginning, even in the middle of a relationship and then, when he used the names that he used, he was serious? It wasn't a joke he was telling you exactly who he is. I would run if I was you. And if you could contact any of the people that he has dated before I guarantee you, he uses the same lines on them, he wants to do the same thing with them, this guy's a wacko. You know it to that's the reason why you're asking about it.  Because that inner person, your subconscious is talking hard to you right now. A lot of times when I answer a question like this I say, just because I think something just because I feel something does not mean that I'm right. I'm not going to tell that to you when I read your question.  My whole demeanor changed. And I was saying no.  All the way through the whole question. I was saying this guy is not right.  I can't tell you what to do.
 I think you already know that's the reason why you're asking this question.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Two days of talking is not enough time to get to know someone well enough to become “official.” This is a common tactic used by people who want to rush a relationship and get a quick commitment. It's a way for him to lock you down before you can see his true colors.