People tell me I'm desirable, undesirable all at the same time?

[Anonymous]

there are plenty of people who call me attractive in real life-. but when I post a pic online, I get called ugly or average. The rare few would gush at how cute I am. In real life, I rarely get checked out. I almost never get hit on. Its just plain confusing. I have no idea how to view myself. Should I be confident? Am I ugly or am I attractive? If people call me attractive, then why aren't there any guys approaching me?

[ohsheeT]

Take three steps back from this question

All the people that have said nasty things. Guess what? You'll probably never see them again in your life

There.\n's only one opinion that counts. And that is, yours, are you beautiful? Do you count? Do you have a beautiful heart that's all that counts? If you be that person , if you become that person , because you believe in that person , that's who will become


One other thing ugly does not show on the outside. Ugly only comes from the inside. So all those people are wrong.\n Not unless you're ugly on the inside which I kind of doubt that you are, you don't sound like you are so love yourself, you become the person you want to become and believe in it with all your heart, because it will happen, it happens, you will keep growing into more and more beauty. I don't care if you're an 8 or 9 right now. You keep leaving in yourself and you will become a tin with a beautiful heart. So forget everybody else, love yourself love others.

[jmr2191]

Most people have no idea what they want- in a partner, out of life, for breakfast... of course they have no idea whether they find you desirable.

[Anonymous]

You might just be intimidating. It took me a while to realize that I was.

[dudeinohio]

Dunno. You have no. pic. but I'd guess and say you are totally dateable.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't know, random anon lol

[BarryLiverstone]

Are you in shape and healthy?

[Asker]

doesn't matter if you're attractive.

[BarryLiverstone]

Those are major factors in being seen as attractive.

[BarryLiverstone]

You said you are confused. So I asked if you are in shape

[Asker]

I've gotten checked out when I was out of shape too.

it really doesn't matter what your body looks like, if you have an attractive face.

[BarryLiverstone]

It does matter. As you said in your question, you rarely get approached. It matters because your outside appearance is what attracts other people

[Asker]

so why would guys check me out if I'm out of shape then?

I even had a male classmate stare at me cuz i was soo pretty.

[BarryLiverstone]

Some guys will look even if you are overweight. But the majority of people want to find others who are healthy

[Asker]

guys don't care about who is heathy or not. they only care about who is attractive or not.

[BarryLiverstone]

Well I tried to help you. Seems like you already know about guys. So good luck

[Asker]

you think a guy would care more about a girl's cholesterol number over the fact the he finds her pretty enough to fuck?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes.. if a guy wanted to marry someone he’s going to care more that she’s healthy and will be alive 30 years from now. She’s in shape and taking care of herself

[Asker]

you obviously don't know what guys want.

[BarryLiverstone]

Probably not. Yet I did try to answer and help you

[Asker]

you're not trying to help. i doubt you have much ofa life out of GAG

[BarryLiverstone]

Now you are feeling defensive as if you believe I attacked you in some way. When in fact I was being honest

[Asker]

your honesty means nothing because you don't have experience.

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s a bad assumption. But you don’t know me so I can see why you said it. As you still feel hurt by something I said

[Asker]

ok.. if im unattractive then why do I still get checked out? and guys still get crushes on me?

[BarryLiverstone]

Tbh, I’m not sure you care what I say from now on. For me to keep answering your questions it may not be helpful. Good luck

[Asker]

look at you... running away from the question... you can't answer that huh?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. If you want to win, if that makes you feel better. You win. As I said, I tried to help. But maybe my lack of experience caused me to fail. Hasta anon

[Asker]

well if you were soooo right, you wouldn't be running away from the question, would you?

[BarryLiverstone]

Nope. It’s apathy, not pride

[Asker]

if it were apathy, you would've stopped replying long ago...

truth is... you can't answer the question cuz you know you are wrong.

what a good way to humiliate yourself.

[BarryLiverstone]

Gag addiction is why I reply. My apathy is not caring to “fight” you because I realized you didn’t really want help. Once I learned that, I’m telling you that you won. Yes, I’m humiliated. Congrats , you succeeded

[Asker]

How are you apathetic if you still care enough to type paragraphs arguing with me?

[Asker]

If u were really apathetic, u wouldn't still be here.

[BarryLiverstone]

Gag addiction

[BarryLiverstone]

Apathetic to your question. Whether or not you are attractive, I’m uncaring

[Asker]

so...
if im unattractive then why do I still get checked out? and guys still get crushes on me?

[BarryLiverstone]

Okay

[Emanon16]

Be confident and wait

[In_Trance]

Yeah