Do you miss your 20s?

Question

I was looking at old videos of me and I have to say I was so much more lively and energetic than I am now.

I feel like I had so much more of a bubbly personality despite being naive and insecure.

But now I feel like I'm just existing and not living and maybe it has a lot to do with not having as much financial freedom as I did then. I wasn't tied to so much debt and living paycheck to paycheck then.

I just miss it sometimes. Being so free and filled with so much hope.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I turn 30 on the 30th of this month. I'm not taking it well. I've pretty much been in a depression since I turned 29 because I feel like I have no life and no future and no hope of changing it. I feel like my "Best years" are behind me and everything is downhill from here the rest of my life. I'm grasping at straws trying to find any reason to be happy but I'm just not.

I'm single I always have been and always will be because why would my luck change after over 10 years of consecutive failure. It would be one thing if I was getting dates but I'm not even getting that. Woman always seem happy I showed interest but never happy enough to reciprocate which gets disheartening and frustrating.

Basically, I've been slotted into the category of being a good, safe guy that's good enough to like being around but not good enough to love or give a chance. Women tell me they think I'm nice, I make them feel comfortable and safe but any time I try to push the envelope and see if maybe they would go out with me it's always a no.

At least in my early twenties I was more optimistic and still thought that maybe I had a chance. Now I just feel old tired and jaded and half expect to have a heart attack by 40 with my stress and anxiety. It's already giving me physical symptoms. I'm getting chest palpitations when I'm stressed in the left of my chest, and my memory has gone to hell after I left my old social circle because I'm barely even speaking with other humans.

My dad is in his late 60's, and my blood pressure is worse than his because of all the stress I'm under. Right now, I feel like I'm just waiting for something to kill me. Whenever I cross the street part of me thinks I should jump in front of a car, whenever I'm high up I think about jumping and whenever I see something sharp, I think about slitting my wrists. It's like this every single day, I can't go one day without thinking about ending it at least 10 times a day, it's exhausting.

All I wanted out of life was a house, wife and kids. I've completely given up on the house and kids but if I could at least have a partner that loved me once before I died that would be nice. I've only had sex one time and it was an awful experience. I really just want to have 1 healthy relationship where I get to experience things I dreamed about.

I want to know what it's like to put my head in someone's lap and have them play with my hair. I want to I know what it's like to be the little spoon and I want to know what sex is like with a person you love and not just a one night stand you regret and feel ruined sex for you. I've never been someone boyfriend before I've never even been someones best friend but if I could just experience real love before I die that's all I'm asking in exchange for not ending myself.

I really don't know what to do. My dad is getting older and so is my mom worse me and her have a bad relationship for multiple reasons. When My dad is gone I'm not really sure what I'm supposed to do. I won't have emotional support from my mom and my dad is pretty much my only source of touch in any capacity when he hugs me goodbye after movie night.

I keep asking myself "What am I supposed to do when dads gone?" Am I just supposed to accept I have to spend the rest of my life without getting hugged again? I've got limits to how much more I can take before it just isn't worth it anymore. I fucking hate my birthday now. They make me feel hopeless old and weak not happy.

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

I feel the same way. My 20s where the best years of my life. Being debt free, energetic and living the life to the fullest. I hate this society but there is nothing I can do about so I'm just cracking on trying to smile every day

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, the older we get the more we become content with our lives and ourselves compared to how we were in our 20’s , I can’t speak for everyone , but it seems to be the way it is , for most of us. When I look back at myself in my 20’s compared to now , I just laugh and think what happened to me, I am not as outgoing and wild like I was when I was younger anymore , even though part of me still has that outgoing fun side to me at times , it doesn’t last like it used to lol. Even though at times I wish it would, I am no longer a night owl , even though I still like to party here n there , my ass can’t stay up like I use to. I feel more comfortable being at home and in my own bed compared to anything else. When before I was all about staying up late and partying all night with friends’ and mingling with people, and looking for girls’ and not caring where I fell asleep , Nowadays it’s not the same , even though I still like doing those things at times but not as much anymore. So aging definitely changes a lot of us. I look at my kids’ that are in their 20’s and laugh and think I use to be that way. . My kids’ make me feel old and make me feel like I am not as wild as I use to be anymore , My kids’ get shocked when they see old pictures of me and are amazed seeing me that way., like I was never there age before lol. Just last night I showed my son pictures of me that I found , when I was his age and he was amazed on how much he looks like me. Some of the pictures proved my son is pretty much my twin , but of course he denies it , because he is to cool to be his Dad lol

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes i feel the same way you do time to time. But that's just because I was always out doing some thing. And in today's world I'm out doing something. But it work. Lmao. But besides that I just need someone to share my time with and laugh and explore life again.
But I don't let it hold me back. It's just a matter of time either when I'm 100% ready or somebody walks into my life.
I'll take that as a sign and go for it

HawkPerception · Answer

Definitely do. Not as much to look forward to these days. Most people around my age in my social circle are low energy 24/7 and never down to chill as much anymore

AviatorTom · Answer

Not really. On my 25th birthday, I realized I was a quarter century old, and that seemed so old to me.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, the 1990s was a much better decade than the current one, so yes.

Zack-Bann · Answer

I’m still in my 20’s and miss my teens for the same reasons

The fact is Im already lacking financial freedom at 27 and scrape by with my paychecks

Which is sad considering I do work in a “high paying tech career”
But by the time I reach the comfortable income I will be well in my 30s and less energetic than I am now

So I end up having fight against the passage of time to preserve whatever youth I have left long enough to be allowed to enjoy it properly

Because it’s all a lie.
You need money to make true memories.
I have a lot of wasted time in my past because of that

Keyboardkat · Answer

I miss it in the sense that, when I look back, I realize what a jerk I was sometimes, and how immature I was for so long, and how I wish i had been smarter and had made better decisions. I wish I could apologize and make amends to those whom I may have hurt. I wish could go back and make better decisions, because I've learned that decisions you make when you're young can have long-lasting consequences, good or bad. But nobody gets a do-over. The clock only goes in one direction. So all we can do is hope to learn from our mistakes. After a lot of mistakes, and a lot of getting banged around by life, we (hopefully) arrive at something like wisdom. But it doesn't come cheap! And then when you're on in years, what can you do with it?

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Everything you just mentioned could be easily done in your 30s.. LOL.. I don't know what's wrong with us millennials/ gen Z and thinking that life ends once you turn 30 as if it's some elderly age.. Sure, the youthful energy of your 20s is down a little, but really it's bad habits and overthinking that's bringing us down the most..

Sal_Monella · Answer

I miss my 20's because, as we say here in the South, I was young, dumb and full of cum. I could have used the time a lot better. I missed a lot of opportunities. My parents wanted to keep me separate from the life in Atlanta, like Calogero or Micali. They did.

But had I come up in construction and real estate like my Cumpari up north, I'd have a Maserati Quattroporte today and not a 2008 Buick Lucerne. Yogi Berra once said: when you come to a fork in the road, TAKE IT! Too long, I sat at the light not sure of which way to turn.

molonski2 · Answer

Similar , incredible blind believe and I had a great time , now in hindsight many things I should have better , but that's part of being young.

Financials are vastly better now , but then I didn't care of worry too much about anything , no phones , no Internet was really good , you had time.
Everyone didn't expect all.. RIGHT NOW !

Beckybooboo · Answer

Having just turned 25, I think I probably will look back and miss my twenties. A lot of great things have and will happen that I don't think ever will again but that's only if everything goes as planned. The funny thing is, everyone I've talked to in their 50's and even older, have pretty much unanimously said they enjoyed their 30's the most. Time will tell.

Levin · Answer

Maybe the concept of being young, but I definitely feel better and healthier at the age I am now.

And yes, I do feel for you. Debt, extortionate mortgages/rent and living paycheck to paycheck is how they keep you in the slave system.

DonaldDarko · Answer

I was smaller, weaker and I had the shittyest job I've ever had. I lived in the worst slum full of crazies and ex convict types that I've ever seen. But I was young and had potential. If I had it to do over again I'd get out of that place, get another job and save up some money.

Spencer10 · Answer

Not really. I find looking back is largely a waste of time. Nothing you can do from the past than learn from it. Maybe if you miss some of your self from your 20s you can recreate it in the here and now.

NordicInScandinavia · Answer

Absolutely not.

The older I get, the more secure I get in every aspect of my life, each year I get better - I improve aspects of myself and my life. I'm constantly upgrading.

Honestly, can't wait to see what my 40s bring me.

Apple1996 · Answer

Im not even out of my 20s yet but I dont think I'll miss them at all maybe thats just because I've devoted my youth to having babies and raising them. I look forward to being older since I'll have more time for myself as my kids get older

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

What would 25 year old you want to do with your life right now if she knew what you know now?

OneViewpoint · Answer

Nope. Had a blast in my 20's. Had a blast in my 30's. Had a blast in my 40's. And I've had a blast in my 50's. Death lasts a long time. I'm living every day while I can. I'm not into collecting regrets.

Vevv123 · Answer

When I turned 30 I did, but I think the idea of me being in my 30s has settled and the sooner I realize that the better and I don’t want to miss my 20s because then I feel like the mental progress is gone. 😆

dwreborn · Answer

Ya that's life but you need need to have a lot of money to do good fun activities lots of stuff out there for good cheap fun try some new stuff that's active get blood pumping

Shiprex · Answer

I kinda miss them but my 30s were stable and rocking when I moved to another country to be with my wife (girlfriend then) moved from there which was a bit of a gaff but now gone from there into something new.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I never look backwards with my life. I look to the past for other things—music, movies, books, and so on—but never anything within the personal realm.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I miss certain things. I don't miss the bad things, but I had less things to worry/stress about, plus being younger is always better. Oh yeah, I didn't put my actual age on here. I'm actually 33.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I miss my childhood and my teenage years the most, than yes i miss my 20's, i surely don't miss my 30's and since in February i'll become 40, i'm wishing that my 40's will hold some good things for me unlike my 30's!

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes, on some degree. I am a bit nostalgic for when I was truly young and life was a bit more simple.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, I miss having boundless energy and no pain. I watch the young guys at the gym and it makes me sad that I will never be able tom function ;like that again.

Still-alive · Answer

My body sure is lol. gosh i need to go out and walk more

Caillouuu · Answer

I'm at that age, but it seems normal. I'll probably miss it in the future too.

spartan55 · Answer

My 20's? More women, more money, more parties, more travel. Yeah those were rough times for sure. /s

DryGermanGuy · Answer

"HELL YEAH!!!"  - Hank Schrader, Breaking Bad

Likes2drive · Answer

Yeah I do, had more energy and motivation and more hair 😂 but at your age I was taking on a lot and really motivated then so you shouldn’t feel like me now

jazzy34 · Answer

Not at all. My 20s weren’t bad, but I’d rather not repeat them.

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

simslover92 sure 💯 yetni move on and treasure the memories ; life goes onward and onward 😋🙏🎉🥳

AliceGregory · Answer

Nah life is better now and pretty much all of my fears about aging were unjustified :)

WonderingManII · Answer

I don't like it that my time is running out, and nobody is going to miss me when I'm dead and gone.

Wiredone · Answer

I miss my 20's, 30's and 40s. I was able to do so much more back then. I had a lot more energy and a lot less pain

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Looking back I feel it was the best time of my life. At the time I was f***ing miserable, but you forget that shit.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I just turned 20 and am enjoying it and the high sex drive and energy. Any suggestions?

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Definitely yes, if I were in my 20s right now, I would do some things differently.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It's only been a couple of months so not yet.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, because you have so much power I was unstoppable as an athlete even in my 30s

Dongie · Answer

I guess, but I'd rather be 31 to 33 again. I was in my prime.

fish5505_87 · Answer

YES, very muck, too many things too list, not that I am unhappy now!

WhitneySnow · Answer

You’re still pretty bubbly

msc545 · Answer

I miss my twenties. My life was a lot more fun and carefree then.

Fashionista7 · Answer

Yes especially my youth. Though I had to grow up fast at 17.

Paige90 · Answer

I/m still in my 20s

Meatballs · Answer

I wish I could remember my 20s

abc3643 · Answer

I miss my boners from my 20s.

NMoris88 · Answer

Yes I miss my 20s a lot ❤️

Slim57 · Answer

Nah I miss when I was a kid

sage2021 · Answer

I sure do!! 😔

loveyouoak · Answer

Nope

DrPepper12 · Answer

Yup.

smahala1991 · Answer

I do sometimes yes

dudeinohio · Answer

Yeah I do

eagle1951 · Answer

not really

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