Help and relationship advice?

[jimster2929]

Hi I have recently been dating a girl of who i know and live quite close to.. we've slept together quite a few times! I have mixed emotions about weather to take things further or just friends! We get on really well and chemistrys there. She decided to tell me last night that she had come out with herpes of which has come as a massive shock to the system, which has blown everything up in the air about future.. any help or advice is needed please?

[Wuai201]

Like after y'all slept together or before y'all slept together
That plays a difference. She's a danger to your safety if she knew before y'all did anything.
What if she had AIDS instead 😳
Now if it's after, ok
What type does she have? I think type 1 is common.
Are you comfortable with taking extra precautions? It's up to you

[jimster2929]

We was sleeping together since April and she apparently found out around a month ago before I went on holiday and we've slept together since without her telling me till last night? She never said what type she had and understand there's a difference.. I just feel like I need to take a step back and honestly makes me not want to sleep with her on the terms of, What IF.. iv never ever had anything myself soo its a shock

[Selene1600000]

The most important thing here is that she told you honestly, which is actually a sign of trust and respect because many people would hide it. Herpes is very common, and while it does change how you approach sex and protection, it does not automatically mean you cannot have a healthy relationship or sex life together. Before making a decision out of shock, take some time to learn about it properly, ask her honest questions, and decide based on trust, compatibility, and how both of you want to handle things moving forward.