Relationship Advice?

[SSG300]

My LDR girlfriend broke up with me last week and she said that the relationship was draining her. We didn't talk for a week and after I reached out we talked. She said that she not only lost feelings for me but for everything. When I asked what "everything" meant she said she didn't feel comfortable telling. She said that she feels like I disregard her feelings and I try to tell her how she feels. I self reflected and I saw what she was saying, instead of trying to come up with a solution I should've just been there for her listening to how she felt and I apologized because those weren't my intentions. She said thanks for apologizing and that she knows I didn't mean to do that. And I know break ups don't just happen so she must've felt unheard for a while. I guess what I'm asking is if there is a chance for us to get back together? We've been in a LDR for almost a year. She broke up with me but what I also don't understand is why would she want me around? She cried when she broke up with me. This might be stupid but she sent me a message the day after the breakup saying that she wanted me to still use her streaming services. Why do that? Like why would you want anything that reminds you of me? If she was over the relationship shouldn't she want to cut the cord? I really love this girl so any thoughts or advice would be appreciated. Also she said she's not the relationship type which seems like a contradiction of her actions.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

No, probably no chance. But it's fantastic you reflected and recognized, that's not something many of your peers can do.

Take this as a lesson to learn from, reflect fondly on the good times, and see how you can be a better boyfriend in future.

Let her go, and move on to your next adventure.

[SSG300]

I don't know her actions confuse me. She bought me something for my game yesterday. Someone who is done shouldn't be doing stuff like this. Done is done so why does she keep lingering and wanting to interact with me? It's the confusion that has me hesitant to walk away. Would you get your Ex a random gifts? Or would you keep initiating communication? Wouldn't you just cut the cord and move on if you were done and lost all feelings?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I would absolutely cut cords and move on. Maybe she thinks she's just being nice.

It's always up to you whether you fall back in love with her, but I'm telling you right now you might need to be the stronger person.

Don't be someone's "on hold bitch".

Return the gift, if possible, and tell her thanks but it's inappropriate and you'd appreciate if she'd cut contact. Then, initiate cutting contact yourself. Remove her from your profiles, don't be friends on social media, etc.

You won't help yourself by continuing to torture yourself. You're gonna get hurt and maybe even start resenting her.

Just let her go, let yourself heal, and move on.

[dustybiker]

She’s hurt. Give her some space. See what happens.

[SSG300]

She initiated contact and asked me if I wanted to do something with her and we spent most of the day talking and laughing and stuff. When it came time to hang up (usually where we would say our I love you) it got weird or at least for me it did a bit. She awkwardly said bye and I said bye but she didn't hear me so there was a awkward 30sec silence of her waiting for me to say bye back. We both laughed about it but it weird lol. I don't know what the hell is going on.

[dustybiker]

That is pretty cute. lol

[SSG300]

Yup but it just confuses me more lol

[dustybiker]

She might be just as confused.

[Iron_Man]

Why would it be draining her? You guys need to meet in person how long has it been that you’ve been talking on the Internet?

[SSG300]

About 10 months. I was supposed to go earlier in the year but I got a medical bill I had to take care of so I didn't get to go and with her job she can't make it to me so closest we could meet would be around January.

[Iron_Man]

Well make sure you show up in January

[SSG300]

I will if she still wants to be in the relationship.

[Iron_Man]

Hopefully

[SSG300]

Thanks dude.

[Iron_Man]

You’re welcome

[Guy13]

LDRs never work. It is a digital lie until you meet in person. Let it go !!

[Avicenna]

She’s confused and maybe feels guilty

[SSG300]

Maybe I thought the same for a bit, but why would she feel guilty?