Why does everyone come to me for relationship advice?

[xomellll10x3]

I'm just curious, all of my friends, even ones I have only known for only a very short time come to me for relationship advice, even though I have almost NO experience! Being that I'm often very shy, and to be honest, very picky and have high standards, I have never been in a relationship or had a real date. I've had my fair share of crushes, and had some guys like me or ask me out, but it seems ironic to me that all of my friends always ask me for advice when I have little "from-experience" advice to offer. Any thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I think that people feel like they can confide in you. There are certain vibes that people give off, some good and some bad. You give off good ones so that's why people trust you and feel like they can trust you. The same things happens to me. A lot of it has to do with your lack of judging people (which is good, they feel like they aren't going to be judged) and also your ability to listen. I love helping out people, sure I may not have a ton of experience, but sometimes it's not advice they need it's someone to listen to them. :)

[echo324908]

i think you have a good point. And I guess your friends are very lucky to have a friend like you not tend to judge them...^_^

[xomellll10x3]

You sound exactly like me! hahaha it makes sense to me now.

[beemad]

they probably see you as the voice of reason. they trust you even though you don't have experience it doesn't mean that your judgment isn't good. just give advice as best you can and if you are uncomfortable with the advice just let them know that you are giving the advice but you have no experience in the area. sometimes a friend with good judgment and a clear view of things is better than someone with a ton of experience. they trust you and value your opinion it's a good thing!

[brookeh09]

I'm going to have to say they are doing it out of trust and feeling comfortable. You are probably one of the only ones they feel comfortable with talking about their relationship and getting advice from. A lot of people ask me for relationship advice as well and they do it out of trust and feeling comfortable as well.

Even though some that talk to you about it haven't known you very long..usually people can get the right judgement on people right off the bat. :)

[brookeh09]

Lol..why would this get negative ratings? I didn't say anything offensive.

[xomellll10x3]

i didn't find anything offensive! your logic makes sense.

[myspacemybroke]

Aside from people trusting you and other personal preferences, it's the whole issue with no emotional connection to the situation therefore you will give a non-biased response. Look at how they choose the jury, they ask if you've ever had a crime committed against you to be sure you won't be emotionally comprised by the situation.

[xomellll10x3]

I guess that really does make sense, I never thought of it that way..thanks!

[Luthor]

For me relating to people or situations I've never been in has always come easy. I don't know why, I guess you could say its a gift or something. But feel good that your friends come to you for advice which means they value your word.

[xomellll10x3]

thanks, you're right! I do feel good and it makes me proud that they do. It's just a little puzzling is all!

[Dan2287]

Im in the same boat - zero experience, zero abilities etc yet I sometimes get asked for advice - couldn't pick a worse person

Maybe they don't know of your inexperience? Maybe your helpful in other areas so they assume you are helpful with this? IMO inexperience isn't always bad, you do see things from a different perspective

[xomellll10x3]

I don't know, I feel like the advice I give is often really good advice, especially since like you said, I see things from a different perspective. It's definitely not bad it just always puzzled me

[emmy86]

You sound exactly like me! I'm generally a fairly logical & down to earth person so don't get too caught up in the high emotions of relationships. Maybe it's the calm, external third party view. Maybe not bouncing from relationship to relationship suggests a more realistic, sensible approach to relationships and when you do find someone, you enter into a relationship for the long term.

[kereru]

this happens to me to too, I think its because the people who come to you don't nessecarily expect you have the answers, they just want to talk about it and have someone listen.

[fwump38]

I haven't had much experience either, but I still find myself giving friends relationship advice from time to time. It's natural I suppose.

[Jessicahere]

You are logical in your advice so people think you might be able to help them or elad them in the right direction.

[miki94]

You are impartial and logical in your advice.

That's what your inexperience gives you.

[Anonymous]

It happens to me too, I don't know why...

People even ask me for sex advices, the ones that have no clue I am a virgin...hahaha

but I give advices anyway...

[cookie1993]

i guess because people trust and respect you...

[Anonymous]

You give good advice.