Why do people always try to set me up with someone?

[Lenee445]

Why can't someone be happy and content with their single life? My coworkers, friends, and family are always trying to set me up with someone. Even though I tell them I'm at the age where I'm no longer interested in dating (been there done that). I've been single for 7 years now and would just like to continue to travel, live peacefully by myself, and enjoy my life. Do any of you other single folks go through this? I try not to go off on them, but they're pushing my buttons! Lol

[Crafteroon]

Just noticed that I don't know anyone like that. Or they know better than to try and set me up with someone.

There are people who like to overmanage things, some people keep looking at apartments or cars despite knowing they have no plans to move or change into a newer car. Others keep moving their furniture around, redecorating constantly. And the worst bunch try to control who others date.

[Chazmatazz269]

Most people don’t like being single, so it’s difficult for them to relate to people who do like it. Most of my friends and family have stopped trying. But yeah, it used to be ridiculous.

[tanvishah123]

Because they want to see you miserable like them as relationships do that lol

[Lenee445]

Exactly! I like peace and sometimes relationships don't come with that. Lol

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

People do it because they think they know better. Some people are happy being single just as some people are happy in a relationship.

[Creampiekarl420]

They just don’t want you to die alone single life is fun but when you’re 50 you’ll wish you had started a family of your own holidays will be the hardest

[Lenee445]

Don't want kids

[Lenee445]

I don't celebrate holidays either, so that will not matter. I mean, even if you had a family you could still die alone. I worked at a senior living home. Some of my residents had 10+ kids and still died alone. Trust me I'm glad I didn't start a family seeing what my family and friends who have kids go through. If that means die alone, so be it! Dying alone doesn't scare me.

[Creampiekarl420]

You’ll be unfulfilled because the way you live is very self centered believe it or not life is not about you it’s about people being single is easy but it’s not easy on you im just telling you why they try to set you up and honestly at your age it’s kinda too late anyways

[Creampiekarl420]

Please don’t take this the wrong way but you have the mindset of a loser

[Creampiekarl420]

Everyone is afraid of dying

[Lenee445]

Okay, INCEL!

[Creampiekarl420]

Im a father but okay 😂

[Lenee445]

Ohhhhhh, that explains your response. Can't accept others life choices when theirs differ from yours. Have a good though! Happy Saturday!

[Creampiekarl420]

No You literally asked the question and I answered honestly it’s not my fault if you didn’t like the answer I’m just telling you why they do that

[Lenee445]

I had no issue with the answer you responded with. I was just saying that the answer you responded with isn't the case for everyone, then you threw an insult saying that I have an mindset of a loser, that I'm selfish, and it's too late for me (which doesn't hurt me) because I don't want that anyway. Which is the typical response of society who's not used to a woman not following the societal norms. Society can't stand a woman who's happy by herself, living her life for her, and minds her own business.

[Lenee445]

I'm far from selfish, because I'm the one who fed and took care of those residents (who had kids) when their kids were no where to be around. I'm the one who gave them company when their 10 kids wouldn't even want to see them for the holidays.

[Creampiekarl420]

That’s not why you’re selfish you’re selfish because your life is just about you and your happiness I volunteer at senior homes you were receiving payment
The fact that this is how you’ve decided to live at such a young age is sad and you won’t realize until your old you are just like so many other women nowadays who don’t think about their future
You just care about your own pleasure and trust me it’s gonna get depressing real fast there’s a reason more women today attempt suicide and it’s because they have a self centered view on life just like you do and what’s really sad is you think it’s fine and it’s not human beings are social creatures

[Lenee445]

All I'm saying if a person isn't crying about their relationship status, or bitter, there should be no reason for anyone to think someone is lonely. I'm literally always friendly, happy, and enjoying life. I will at 50+ too, relationship or not. It's people who have those things and are still unfulfilled. You'll see what I'm talking about when you get more life experience.

[Lenee445]

*will be

[Creampiekarl420]

Do you honestly believe that you will feel and think the same way you do now at 50
For that to happen you’d have to live a self serving unexamined life where your morals and character never changes or grows which is and I hate to say this but a truly worthless life

[Lenee445]

There's other forms of companionship other than romantic relationships. I'm not against relationships, if I happen to meet someone, great, but if not, I'm not going to be miserable and cry in my room for the rest of my life and sure as hell don't need anyone to set me up on dates. It was more than just an paycheck I went there on my days off because of how sorry I felt for those people. I built relationships with them. It's people who are married who are still depressed. That scare tactic don't work on me, they commit suicide because they have some internal issues to work on within themselves, it's not because of their life choices. It's called trauma and mental health issues, it has nothing to do with not being in a relationship. Those who are happy within themselves, got help, worked on themselves will not be depressed just because they don't have someone. I can't speak for other women, but if I had "self centered view on life", I wouldn't have the good friends that I have or niece's, nephews who love me, or even random people who love to be around me.

You tried it. Get some more life experience and you'll see what I'm saying. Stop listening to your old Red Pillars and Incels. My mindset is far from a loser, I work at one of the top financial institutions. Enjoy your Saturday, love! 😉

[Creampiekarl420]

Keep pretending you aren’t human all you want you think you’re any different from the women who think like you it’s all the same end result I get that you’re a woman and you need to be right or you’ll literally explode but who are you even talking to at this point are you just saying that for yourself because I know exactly what your future holds from the way you talk enjoy the next 20 years 😑

[Lenee445]

Who are to know how someone's life is going to be? Are you GOD? You're not even 50 yourself, you're in your early 20s. When you get to your 50s then you get to have an opinion about how someone's life is going to be at that age.

[Lenee445]

Learn to write too!

[Creampiekarl420]

Text and writing are two completely different things and I’m not taking and literary advice from someone who says “ Who are to 😂”
The data and statistics speak for themselves I’ve met many women like you and you’re the reason why the black community is so trash and bottom of the barrel but do you ma’am keep thinking you know better you blacks will end of making yourselves extinct

[Lenee445]

I'm not even black weirdo

[Lenee445]

Racist ass! I hope your kid doesn't turn out like an racist asshole like you. You're a poor person of a father. People like you don't deserve kids.

[Lenee445]

If anything I would be helping the black community by not bringing any kids into this world without being married, and not into poverty you dumb ass!

[Lenee445]

You shouldn't care about how people lives will turn out in the future anyway. Why would you care? What does other people lives have to do with you. I notice you're the only one who's making a big deal about it.

[Creampiekarl420]

You seem upset by my honesty only truth can make people this upset
But hey tell me what you wanted to hear
Tell me what you want me to say
So you can wrap yourself up in a big warm lie away from the cold hard truth

[Creampiekarl420]

What have I said that was racist?

[Lenee445]

Bitch, because you assumed I was black.

[Creampiekarl420]

I’ll raise my daughter to be a wife so she will have a husband and family and not die alone and bitter like you

[Lenee445]

I'm only upset because you assumed I were black and you just totally downed a group of people who did nothing to you.

[Creampiekarl420]

Brown skinned big nose big lips = Black

[Lenee445]

I'm sure you wouldn't have had thee balls to tell black wom (en) what you just said to their faces.

[Creampiekarl420]

I definitely would their community is in shambles and black women are mostly to blame

[Lenee445]

You're a dumb ass! Not just black people has a big nose, big lips and brown skin. It's other races and people of other nationalities who has those features. Not many, but some.

[Lenee445]

You're definitely a troll and need help. I guess you met every black woman in the world.

[Creampiekarl420]

Those are common traits for people of Afro bloodlines wth are you talking about do you not understand how genetics work my daughter has big lips too that she definitely got from her mother not me she has darker skin that she definitely got from her mother not me nappy hair too mine is straight

[Creampiekarl420]

How do you even know that you can have children every child is a blessing and each year your ability to Create one decreases how do you know that sperm can survive long enough in your vagina to reach an egg you’ll never know the joys of motherhood and a child’s unconditional love everyone in the world can hate you but your own child won’t and the fact that so many of you women just spit on your womanhood is perplexing to me why would you do that to yourself?

[Lenee445]

That's a flipping lie. Your child can grow up and hate you as well. Not every kid grows up to like their parents. I've been around people and family long enough to know. It's funny how you changed your tone in the text when I said I wasn't black. You're hilarious Lol

[MikeInHawaii]

Probably the most incompatible person I ever went out with was a blind date set up by my best friend!

[Anonymous]

They're just trying help. Instead of complaining how bout just saying, " thanks but I'm quite happy being single".

[Lenee445]

First of all, I'm venting, not "complaining"! I tell them that already and they still try.

[Fireguy17]

They can't stand to see you single and happy.

[In_Trance]

Probably because you need some vitamin D

[Lenee445]

No thanks!

[enocheli]

you have a time limit to have kids

[Lenee445]

I don't want kids. If I wanted kids I would have done that when I was younger.

[Beerluvr]

Maybe they feel you are lonely

[Lenee445]

If someone is enjoying their life, that means their lonely? Lol

[Beerluvr]

I said maybe they feel that. Doesn’t mean it’s true