What’s the best relationship advice you can give someone that you had to learn for yourself?

[Breanna_nonbinary]

For me it would to never be in a relationship when I know the other person would be mean if we broke up.

[laly520]

Don’t start an argument if that specific issue is insignificant, doesn’t have a long lasting impact or is not in conflict with your values. Sun Tzu once said, “he who wishes to fight must first count the cost.”
Patience. Always control your emotions and don’t let them control you. Sometimes you can’t control what happens to you, but you can control your reaction. Go for a long jog, meditate, leave that obnoxious space and reboot yourself. Then come up with a solution.
Never compare them to your ex.
Never say, during a heated argument, “you always do X.”
Never get personal or call them rude names. That’s a big no no. Very rude and disrespectful.
Never make a public drama show out of your conflict. Take it somewhere private.
Be cheesy. Say “I love you” often, caress their back, hold hands, make them dinner, put the kids to bed. Wash the dishes or let them to sleep in. It’s the little things often.
Love evolves and transforms. In your 20s, sex was probably one of your biggest priorities. At 70, arthritis kicks in and suddenly you need a hip replacement surgery. Choose with whom you’ll die with wisely

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Two things = First, jealously does not equate love… if someone is overly jealous and controlling that’s more about them and their insecurities than their love for you…

And second, don’t get caught up in how much someone TELLS you they love you, go by how much they SHOW you they love you…

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mh

[tremendousfern]

Don't waste your time. If she's being wishy-washy or acting unsure - move on. There are loads and loads of women out there who are time wasters. They are happy to manipulate men into being ATMs or orbiters in their social network, don't let them do that to you. The women who are serious about wanting a relationship aren't going to make you jump through arbitrary hoops or act weird and uncertain about things - they're the ones you should pursue.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Spoken like a man that has been down that road before. I agree, I also don’t tolerate when they test you just to test you.

[CallmeTheKnight]

The past is but a chapter, not the entire story.

[Paris13]

With Anyone, Hun... Close to Home or Online, Open Lines of Communication. Making an Effort To Be A Couple. Trust and No Jealousy. xxoo

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Love yourself - first…

[Flatmanlewis]

Be able to compromise.


Be honest always - with what you think, want, and will/won’t tolerate. Honest to them and more importantly yourself.


Don’t make the next one pay for the mistakes & damage of the last one.


Often you will have to chose between being right or being happy. Understand that before you make decisions.

[Anonymous]

Know what you want and be vocal about it. If you want marriage, be upfront about it before you find yourself in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want marriage. If you don’t want kids, be upfront about it before you find yourself in a relationship with someone who does want kids. Don’t be so desperate to be in a relationship that you find yourself with someone who doesn’t want or value the same things you do.

[JacobJordan]

It is never you vs your partner it is you AND your partner vs the problem. Communicate and do not go to bed frustrated.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I totally agree. 😊

[sage2021]

Ask the guy to get to know you, not just sex. Shoot, my cat can have sex, it's a no brainier.
Have him or her really get to know you. Spend a lot of time together.

Don't play games with each other using your cellphone or laptop.

[lightbulb27]

I'd have to really think about this, there's plenty.

What you just said is people get very hurt. that does happen. congrtulations on being a human being. you have underscored several important things scribbled in books thousands of years ago.

"Words are like swords"

"honor..."

"do unto others as you would have them do to you".

etc.. all true right?

[NathanDavis]

there's two... in a relationship

not just you and your needs... there's a whole lot of people who know this, yes... and still won't do it properly... to care for the other's needs as much as they care for their own needs

[bobalife]

Find someone who knows how to fight for and with you… respect you when they’re angry and all times.


Love isn’t supposed to hurt…

[nawtee_me]

Relationships take work, make sure that both of you are up for the job.

Relationships are between two people, don’t bring your exes with you when starting another one.

Relationships are based on trust, if you have trust issues you are not yet ready for one.

[abc3643]

AVOID ALL RELATIONSHIPS.

Why?

FREEDOM. In relationships, you have constraints which, by definition, limit freedom. The older you get, the more you realize how much you miss the freedom of being single.

[jshm2]

Don't date crazy. You want a relationship, not a fucking mental health project.

None of this "non-binary" or "bi" crap either, not worth giving such people time, let alone a relationship.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Love language, how important it is for him to know yours and you to know his. And you have to meet in the middle.

[Anonymous]

Mean is, as a man, have standards, moral and expectations that women need to come up too. Most men would be with any old piece of trash that walks the streets! It’s important that you as a man have values and standards and make sure that women meet the standards, if not, they aren’t worth your time.

[mobiusforniner]

Love is letting go, not of a person or thing per se; but of what YOU want.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Not sure I agree. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to give up something about yourself or the things you want. If they love you then they want you to be happy, so if you’re giving up what you want then you can’t ever be happy.

[mobiusforniner]

If you have the choice to choose what you want or be happy, which would it be? Too many relationships fail because people expect or desire something from the other to protect their own interest. Is that truly love?

[KittygosMeoWW]

Get to know yourself and love yourself first before wanting a real relationship

[RingOfFire]

Love is like a bank account that cannot be replenished. Once you've spent your full balance it can never be replaced. Spend it wisely and avoid the greatest regret of your life.

[jahaims]

Don't date if you have conflicting morals, values or goals.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I agree except for the goals. I would agree that having goals in life is an import thing. If one person has them and the other doesn’t then it’ll never work. (Been there before)

[whistlingwh0res]

you will never love again the same way you do when you let the first love go.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Never settle for less than your worth

[Breanna_nonbinary]

Yes I agree, but how do you determine what you’re worth. Especially since women tend to under-value themself and men tend to over-value themselves

[Anonymous]

Make sure you have a TON of options before settling down for one.

[OfDeath]

Never tell your girlfriend about your personal problems

[Breanna_nonbinary]

That’s awful advice. That’s how the 50s and 60s baca me the era of divorce.

[OfDeath]

In my experience letting my girlfriend know something that happened just creates an argument. She is much happier when she is not informed

[Breanna_nonbinary]

It does seem that ignorance is bliss but when people keep things from one another they feel betrayed and hurt that you didn’t trust them. If they get upset because of what it is then it’s never meant to be. I’ve found that they’re more angry that you didn’t share it with them.

[OfDeath]

A good rule of thumb is if someone can’t or won’t help with something, don’t tell them about it.

That would have saved me a lot of trouble