Don’t start an argument if that specific issue is insignificant, doesn’t have a long lasting impact or is not in conflict with your values. Sun Tzu once said, “he who wishes to fight must first count the cost.” Patience. Always control your emotions and don’t let them control you. Sometimes you can’t control what happens to you, but you can control your reaction. Go for a long jog, meditate, leave that obnoxious space and reboot yourself. Then come up with a solution. Never compare them to your ex. Never say, during a heated argument, “you always do X.” Never get personal or call them rude names. That’s a big no no. Very rude and disrespectful. Never make a public drama show out of your conflict. Take it somewhere private. Be cheesy. Say “I love you” often, caress their back, hold hands, make them dinner, put the kids to bed. Wash the dishes or let them to sleep in. It’s the little things often. Love evolves and transforms. In your 20s, sex was probably one of your biggest priorities. At 70, arthritis kicks in and suddenly you need a hip replacement surgery. Choose with whom you’ll die with wisely
Two things = First, jealously does not equate love… if someone is overly jealous and controlling that’s more about them and their insecurities than their love for you…
And second, don’t get caught up in how much someone TELLS you they love you, go by how much they SHOW you they love you…
Don't waste your time. If she's being wishy-washy or acting unsure - move on. There are loads and loads of women out there who are time wasters. They are happy to manipulate men into being ATMs or orbiters in their social network, don't let them do that to you. The women who are serious about wanting a relationship aren't going to make you jump through arbitrary hoops or act weird and uncertain about things - they're the ones you should pursue.
Be honest always - with what you think, want, and will/won’t tolerate. Honest to them and more importantly yourself.
Don’t make the next one pay for the mistakes & damage of the last one.
Often you will have to chose between being right or being happy. Understand that before you make decisions.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
2 mo
Know what you want and be vocal about it. If you want marriage, be upfront about it before you find yourself in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want marriage. If you don’t want kids, be upfront about it before you find yourself in a relationship with someone who does want kids. Don’t be so desperate to be in a relationship that you find yourself with someone who doesn’t want or value the same things you do.
Ask the guy to get to know you, not just sex. Shoot, my cat can have sex, it's a no brainier. Have him or her really get to know you. Spend a lot of time together.
Don't play games with each other using your cellphone or laptop.
I'd have to really think about this, there's plenty.
What you just said is people get very hurt. that does happen. congrtulations on being a human being. you have underscored several important things scribbled in books thousands of years ago.
"Words are like swords"
"honor..."
"do unto others as you would have them do to you".
not just you and your needs... there's a whole lot of people who know this, yes... and still won't do it properly... to care for the other's needs as much as they care for their own needs
FREEDOM. In relationships, you have constraints which, by definition, limit freedom. The older you get, the more you realize how much you miss the freedom of being single.
Love language, how important it is for him to know yours and you to know his. And you have to meet in the middle.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
2 mo
Mean is, as a man, have standards, moral and expectations that women need to come up too. Most men would be with any old piece of trash that walks the streets! It’s important that you as a man have values and standards and make sure that women meet the standards, if not, they aren’t worth your time.
Not sure I agree. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to give up something about yourself or the things you want. If they love you then they want you to be happy, so if you’re giving up what you want then you can’t ever be happy.
If you have the choice to choose what you want or be happy, which would it be? Too many relationships fail because people expect or desire something from the other to protect their own interest. Is that truly love?
Love is like a bank account that cannot be replenished. Once you've spent your full balance it can never be replaced. Spend it wisely and avoid the greatest regret of your life.
I agree except for the goals. I would agree that having goals in life is an import thing. If one person has them and the other doesn’t then it’ll never work. (Been there before)
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