Why can't I establish relationships and advance conversations?

[candk14]

I didn't even understand why my last relationship ended. I am not a man who is permanently attached to his family and cannot take a step without them in any matter. I love being selfless. My girlfriend in the last relationship was a woman who did not take care of herself and could not set goals. I did my best to support her in every way possible. She was a graduate of graphic design but worked as a hostess in restaurants. I gave her my own computer so she could improve in her profession. I bought her a thermos because she felt sad when her tea or coffee got cold. Buying and giving things does not make someone love you, but I didn't do these things to make her love me; I did them because I loved her. However, she left me on the night before the day she was supposed to meet my family. Now I am having a hard time starting a new relationship, finding a topic to talk about, and I can't love anyone. I always feel tired and unenthusiastic, and I don't know what to do. What do you think I should do? What advice would you give me?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you need some time alone to bounce back. Build up your self esteem and confidence, get yourself to a place in life that you feel content without a woman. So when you meet the right one you feel more ready and in a good position. In some ways you may still be reeling from your ex and I think you have to get past that first.

[Anonymous]

Give love a chance again. You want your last experience to be a step up from what she gave

[Iron_Man]

Relax, calm down and talk from the heart let it all flow out natural

[Avicenna]

Relax and let things flow. And don't expect perfection.

[Selene1600000]

It sounds like you loved deeply and gave sincerely, so being left suddenly without understanding why would naturally leave you emotionally exhausted and guarded. Right now, instead of forcing yourself to love again or start a new relationship, focus on rebuilding your own energy, routines, interests, and sense of self outside of taking care of someone else. The fact that you still care, reflect, and want connection means you are not incapable of love, you are just hurt and emotionally drained from a breakup that never gave you proper closure.

[Anonymous]

Don't overthink it. Give it time and life will sort itself out.