It is really unfair of her to give you no reason after 3 years. It will be difficult to get over when you don't understand what happened, but whenever I've been in situations where someone did something similar, I told myself that this is not the kind of person I want to be with anyway. If she isn't decent or considerate enough to at least tell you the reason, she's really not that good of a person. Keep reminding yourself that you deserve better than what she gave you. She's obviously not the person you thought she was if she could do something like this.
As for how to get over it, everyone has different ways. I'm the type of person who would probably sulk over it for a while (a week maybe?) but I'd get to a point where I'd tell myself, "Today is the last day I'm going to lay around feeling sorry for myself." After that, I'd make it a point to talk to friends, get out of the house, exercise, take up a new hobby or return to an old hobby. Travel to visit my sister and nephews. Anything to stop dwelling on it. Fake it til you make it.
It’s difficult because she gave no reasoning for closure. It’s only natural to feel stuck and depressed afterwards. Spend some time with friends, go outside, go hiking, go listen to your favorite music, get into some old hobbies, try new activities you’ve always wanted to try, go try some new food. Distract yourself with anything you can, focus on yourself.
I was in the same boat, I sulked in bed for 2 weeks straight. I finally got the motivation to just start writing my thoughts, going on walks, listening to music, and spending more time with family.
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