Was I wrong for confronting him?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is on vacation and I saw him adding more than 25girls in 3days. I started feeling bad about that situation and decided to talk to him after he asked me to because I was being dry. So I told him that I saw him adding a very big amount of girls and that no matter the reason it was really disrespectful. He told me that it was because they had problem with airbnb and they got scammed so he added random person living in the area to find what to do , and send me pics of 2 man and 2travelling account he followed and told me he added them without looking who he added. The problem is that most of them aren't even in his area , they are 99% woman and all are exactly his type. I got mad and told them that's not what people do when they get scammed , you find videos , tiktok ask family (bc his friends with who he is are from the country) and that many of the account aren't even from the country and they are public account so don't even need to follow to see (he said he didn't talk and just wanted to see the story on their page) , he then told me that he did that because he wasn't thinking straight because he got sick because of the airco and because he didn't sleep well. I told them these are not good reason to disrespect me but if he stop and never do it again I can be okay with it , but instead he said that I see him bad , I have bad thought of him and that make him rethink everything. I was ready to ignore the red flag but he decided to turn in against me , so I got mad and wrote a big text he didn't care to answer so I got extra mad and sent him screenshot of the girls that didn't fit his explanation so he can see that I am not just a crazy paranoid girl but he never replied to me. Maybe I was too agresive? I just don't understand how he can be the one that's hurt and mad. Did I do something wrong? What can I do now? I feel so betrayed and bad it keeps me up at night. I don't know if I should send something else and if I overthought it.

[DishLady]

First of all, never argue when you’re actually still angry. Before sending a text READ IT and ask yourself if YOU would answer that fucking text if it was sent to you. NO? Then don’t send it. Cool off and talk about it when you’re calm.


He’s making excuse after excuse… you SEE they don’t make sense. Why are you still arguing? He’s on vacation… see how he didn’t invite you to the vacation? There’s a reason for all that. And your stalking and taking pics and sending them shows you ARE crazy.


You want to “collect evidence”? He knows what he did… and you know what he did. If you’re feeling so disrespected stop putting so much effort into the dead relationship. Walk away.

[Hardon-Collider]

You were not wrong. Your boyfriend's excuse that he was sick and tired is a moral loophole, a way to justify bad behavior. His actions were disrespectful, and you have every right to be upset about it. He's trying to convince you that his actions were justified, but the facts don't support that. He added 25+ women, most of whom weren't in his area, who were all of his type, and he claims he was looking for a solution to a problem. That is not a logical connection. You are the one who saw the disrespect in his actions, and he is the one who is now trying to turn the situation around and make you feel like the bad guy. He is the one who needs to reflect on his actions, not you. He is the one who needs to see that his actions were disrespectful, and that is the truth of the situation. You should not send him any more messages. Let him process his own behavior. Your value is not determined by his approval or understanding.

[ChicoFromThe305]

You are his girlfriend, confrontation is expected and communication as well, his behavior is fishy and you have every right to be confrontational for his shady behavior, mostly when you trusted him to go on a vacation alone without you.

[EmmaMary]

REPORTED...DUPLICATE.

[Asker]

? I did the other post about that subject too , but this one is more precise because when I did the other one I didn't have the update and wasn't left on read for 2days

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[spartan55]

Can't even wait for him to come home from vacation before launching your attack. Over stupid Instagram follows... so stupid.
It never ceaes to amaze me the amount of value young people put on social media.

[es20490446e]

If I was on a travel, it will never be on my mind following random women.

I don't know, perhaps I'm too much of a good guy.

[MzAsh]

He’s lying through his teeth

[Anonymous]

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