Is 32 and 19 a big age gap?

[Anonymous]

[HawkPerception]

There are bigger age gaps out there. My friend got married to a guy 16 years older than her last year. My cousin also married a guy 16 years older than her. My grandma married my grandpa with a 15 year difference.

The concept of age gap is bizarre to me. As long as you're past the age of puberty, have attraction to the opposite sex, have a sound mind and know who you're attracted to, and there's consent on both ends, I don't see an issue with any age gap.

It's only sheep and bitter older women who tend to be against larger age gaps, because men tend to prefer younger women.

Think to yourself, would you have any issue dating Thor? He's thousands of years old, but if he looks like Chris Hemsworth and is a gentleman of a guy, is there any problem? Most women would happily date him.

Same thing for guys. If there was some 3000 year old immortal woman and she was physically beautiful with an amazing personality and compatible with myself, I would happily date her.

Age does affect your physical beauty, but if you're attracted to someone, you're attracted to them. Simple as that.

If you DO care a lot about what others think, then just use the half your age plus seven rule. That'll always let you date within societal norms and not be judged.

[es20490446e]

Lets say it's at the edge.

A few years ago I dated a couple of women in their early 20s. The difference in maturity was perceptible.

Yet, in the end, it all depends on the people involved. Some people may have more emotional intelligence, and navigate it well despite the difference.

If I would recommend something is this: love can get pretty emotional and addictive, and bring out parts of you that won't appear in any other context.

Often you have to take a step back, breath a couple of times, and reflect on the situation logically. Not in the heat of the moment. Ideally your thinking shall make sense of your emotions.

And, of course, choose well your partner. It's one of the most important decisions you will ever make. They will be your drug, so better it is a good uplifting one.

It's very tempting to overlook when someone isn't a good candidate for being your lover. You want someone who thinks about everyone winning, stay cool in difficult situations, shows consistency in what they say and do, and can calmly talk about any issue that emerges.

Good luck.

[Nikki1989]

That depends on who is 19 and who is 23. If the man is 32, it is OK (just). If it is the other way around, it just gets a little weird.

[ohsheeT]

Yes it is but it's your life if it makes you happy do learn from it the odds of it truly working out thats up to the 2 people every one is different

Just like my opinion everyone has one but the only ones that matter are yours and his

[Summeroflove]

Yes it’s a big one. Depends on the reasons behind the relationship

[HighValue]

It's fine. The majority of relationships close in age don't work out so it isn't age differences causing relationships to fail.

The important thing is having compatible morals, compatible long term life goals, and some interests in common.

[Hardon-Collider]

It's a big deal. It's a concrete, measurable difference in life experience, not just a social convention. It's a real, tangible fact in the spiritual constitution of their beings.

[ProbablyClueless]

Yes! At those ages, that's a huge gap because of the differences in life experience. The same age difference is less of an issue later in life.

[RavVid]

It is quite a gap. I find 18/19 too immature for myself but that doesn't all would be.

[Anonymous]

yes but that doesn't matter

anyone saying no can't morally, legally or logically justify why the age gap shouldn't exist

[Opinion Owner]

don't let the comment section infantilize you

[Jackblue]

Yes the rule is generally half your age plus seven years so a 32 year old shouldn't date someone younger than 23.

[zagor]

There is no rule. Other than don't bang a 14 y. o. if you're 30.

[es20490446e]

I like the rule. It looks accurate.

[beefcakebradybatson]

At that stage in your lives, yes, but since at 72, I'd date a bird one-third my age (i. e.,24), it wouldn't be to me.

[Ariesman81]

Grandpa and grandma met at 41/21. 4 kids and a lifetime together.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea its pretty gappy indeed

[Anonymous]

Yes but doable if you really like them

[avery58]

Yep, huge

[Danny_dan92]

Ask yourself

[Anonymous]

Yes don't do it

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Yes it is