How can a black girl get over her extreme hatred for black men? She had bad experiences with them in life and dating wise?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

You don't have to get over you have to acknowledge it. And change it and then accept yourself love yourself

It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks this is your life

And you are meant to be happy

What ever happen there was something that was going to happen thats was even worse

The lessons that you learned or hopefully learnd is to protect you


No it was not your fault that these things happen to you
But they did. I'm sure everything has ran through your mind many times only because you have to think about it in every way for them to never happen again
But you need to find the answer. To stop it from happing again .
I'm sorry for what you have been through your words told me everything

Learn everything and then love yourself like know other this is when things will change for you don't ever let a man tell you your wrong in what you believe in because it will be a form of manipulation walk aways don't look back. You have been through the pain the heart ache the blame to yourself it's time to understand it's no you but who you pick for what ever reasons learn from all of it

Love yourself and go forward

[Zack-Bann]

Understanding the difference between race and culture would be a start


The bad experience isn’t caused by the color of skin but by the upbringing of the men you you got involved with


If it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck basically.
If you’re exes are share similarities other than race then it’s safe to say you have a “type” and it’s toxic


Maybe you dated black manual laborers
But did you date a black lawyer or doctor? (Or vise versa)
That’s the general idea.
You find someone from another community and you won’t relive the same episodes you always did

[Asker]

Not dating wise I still have bad experiences with him. A former friend threatened to rape me. When I was younger some of them used to threaten to beat me or they’ll constantly bully me calling me ugly, bitch or other names. Some of them made comments about my skin tone.
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[Zack-Bann]

Proving my point
These are a small set of people from your own community they don’t represent the entire “race” all over the world
You grew up around bullies with no parental guidance or a role model to teach them respect
So they do what they do

That makes them disgusting pigs

But it doesn’t make everyone who shares their physical appearance a disgusting pig as well

It’s not the race that made them who they are it’s the environment they grew up in

[Anonymous]

Don’t blame all Black guys because a couple of them are bad

[Asker]

You see my questions says how to stop hating right?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. I’m not sure how to get over it except by recognizing that not all Black guys are bad even if a few of them suck.

[Staximus]

Race isn't the issue, you can choose good or bad guys of any race. Learning how to choose a guy who is not an idiot or a shit bag is the problem here. There are plenty of girls complaining about not being able to find a good man, and they probably are dating men of the same race like most people do. Most women who complain about this either look for superficial qualities in a guy first, or keep accepting bad treatment when they can just leave.

[Staximus]

Some women keep going after shitty guys because their dad was not a good guy

[Asker]

I don’t choose bad men

[Asker]

I was literally harassed and bullied by them for years

[Staximus]

You have to work on coming to terms with your past if there is significant trauma there so you can move forward

[Asker]

I even receive a rape threat from one

[Asker]

Thanks and by the way if I know a guy is toxic I’ll just block or avoid him

[Staximus]

Bad experiences dating wise means you picked bad men

[Staximus]

You need to learn how to pick good men

[Asker]

I meant I didn’t date them I meant it was ones that tried dating me but they were disrespectful and calling women bitches

[Asker]

Not dating wise I still have bad experiences with him. A former friend threatened to rape me. When I was younger some of them used to threaten to beat me or they’ll constantly bully me calling me ugly, bitch or other names. Some of them made comments about my skin tone.

[Asker]

by the way the mains one trying to talk to me was the disrespectful and saggy pants ones. That’s why I date outside my race.

[Staximus]

You never met a black dude that doesn't have the ghetto mentality?

[Asker]

I haven’t

[Asker]

When I was younger I used to be scared of some of them due to the experiences

[LiamS95]

Find a nice guy like me that really likes and appreciates a kind, good looking dark black woman with an attractive figure.

[Anonymous]

Considering they are responsible for most single mothers in this country, and most black on black crime, I don't blame you.

[Asker]

Wow.

[slatyb]

Professional counseling?

[jazzy34]

Therapy.