How do cope with black manosphere bullies as a black women?

[Enhaut]

I don’t know if you guys know about the “black manosphere” - but they’re basically this group of aggressive black male bullies who debase, attack and even sometimes threaten to murder black women online.

they are very toxic to my mental health (as a black woman) and honestly a key reason why I’ve started to consider long term celibacy and dating out.

how can I not let their emotional abuse get me - I have enough to deal with without them putting me down for my skin tone.

[MzAsh]

Yep I see it, know exactly what you’re talking about. I’m white so feel free to take my perspective with a grain of salt. They say they don’t like black women because (they say) they’re loud, mouthy, have an attitude, but most of those dudes are just as bad if not worse. Quite a few of them have criminal histories too. They pedestalize white women because dumb white girls highly overvalue black 🍆.

[Enhaut]

i honestly just think they do it because they hate themselves.

I feel like the only person who trully loves dark skin is black women , which is why you often see them leading the black community.

black men are seriously physiologically not well - and im being honest about this.

[Dargil]

Ignore them and take nothing personally. I (White Celt) ran into a lovely Black girl in the course of business and suggested we spend some time together. We did.
Some time later, she asked me: "Why do you treat me like this?"
I said "Like what?"
She said "Patient and reasonable."
I said: "That's the way I was raised. Its the way a girl should be treated."

We are out here. We aren't bigots. We don't care how brown you are. And we may just find a reason for you not to be celebate.

[Enhaut]

Honestly I don’t believe this

Until black men stop these guys from threatening women who look like me than I’d rather die single then be with black men (because this is not harmless and this behavior is unacceptable)

[Enhaut]

*black men collectively

[Enhaut]

Ohhhh

[Anonymous]

While I don’t agree w the killing of women or others unless it’s justified, I can see why they don’t like black women. I used to date black women at one time, but after a while I said no more. A lot of them acted ghetto even though they tried to act proper, dress nice, etc.

[Enhaut]

I don't think what they're doing is justified at all - they're are plenty of dark skin women out here who aren't those things and plenty of light skin women who are (but the black men in these spaces only want to tear down and threaten the former)

The manosphere has made the idea of being with black men so unattractive to me - at this point I really just want to feel safe - like believe it or not we don't care who you date just stop threatening us with physical harm

[Opinion Owner]

You could have fooled me. Women say they don’t care what women men date but there’s a lot of women who talk down on men who are going overseas to find partners. Calling them trash, left over men don’t no one wants, pedophiles, etc, etc. so I do think a lot of women care who men date especially black women.

[Enhaut]

I don't care what you do, really - the emotional abuse is enough to make me physically ill being around black men.

Just stop being a bully - stop threatening dark skin women for no reason (it's enough that we already go through socirty being humilated and unprotected and now i ahve one more enemy to add to my plate)

[es20490446e]

what is toxic is you wanting an idiot not being an idiot.

[Enhaut]

How am I watching an Internet for simply not wanting my life to be threatened? - these men literally want to kill women who look like me.

[Enhaut]

*wanting an idiot

[es20490446e]

their behavior is out of your control.

so focus on what you can control, removing yourself from the situation and letting them be who they are.

[Enhaut]

These guys are everywhere on the Internet, telling black women that are not shit - at some point it’s very difficult to avoid them especially with the amount of support they get.

Not to mention how they’re literally threatening my life so of course they make me feel very unsafe - would you avoid someone who threatening to kill you?

[Enhaut]

* or would you want them to stop

[es20490446e]

exactly, they are everywhere. you will never finish them. there will always be a new idiot.

[Enhaut]

But why can’t someone stop them? Why am I just expected to feel unsafe all the time.

Like literally, I am afraid for my life

[es20490446e]

even if you were white, there would always be something and someone that would pick on you.

[Enhaut]

No.

There would not always be someone trying to dehumanized me and threatening to murder me - that’s a whole different level of attack.

Those type of threats aren’t harmless at all. They’re an explicit threat to my well-being.

[Anonymous]

The manosphere only exists on very specific sites online. Just avoid those sites. Problem solved.

[Enhaut]

No they don't just exist online these are really people behind these screens who do unalive and and attck black women irl

They are not a concentrated harmless group because they are getting tons of support and money for hurting dark skin girls - not just on YouTube but on the broader web

[Anonymous]

Then stay away from their online sites or the internet even

[Enhaut]

I do do that - but the Internet is essential tool we use today (even for school and work). So taking a break from online is really a temporary relief.

Not to mention that they’re not just hold on one side or one YouTube channel. They’re everywhere on TikTok, on Instagram, and on platforms, like these telling black woman, that their shit, and that they’re not worth anything, and that they might as well disappear from the face of the earth.

It’s a whole other level of just malicious cyberbullying

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like some kind of special group that just lashes out on one particular type of person. Not sure why they hate black woman so much.

[Opinion Owner]

There’s plenty of heat groups, but you basically just ignore them

[Enhaut]

Honestly, with amount of traction and support they get it feels like it’s all of them.

No one but a few “divestor” channels I see sometimes call the on they’re bull - and the black men who I’m assuming to disagree with them just sit back and let watch as they tear black women apart and uplift racist white girls (like just pearly things)

I honestly don’t even wanna date black men now because it just makes me feel disgusted

[Opinion Owner]

Well, you could always date white guys then

[Enhaut]

I might as well, it’s not like black men care since they basically want black women to die

[Luckycharms12]

Never heard of this before that's really fucked up. I'm sure the law will deal with them.

[gorydetails]

Online?

[Enhaut]

Yes, online and in real life (because sadly, these online dudes exist in the real world - and and take out physically take out their anger on black womend well)

[gorydetails]

Turn off your computer, and I guess hang out away from black men.

[Enhaut]

Staying away from technology is not really a long term solution (since we heavy a rely on tech now in places like our work, school and just basic communication on).

Also what do I do when this stuff becomes the dudes in my neighborhood? - these guys don't just exist on the internet they are coming for girls in real life as well

[pethouse]

Wait really?

[Enhaut]

Yes - this is real

[pethouse]

Wow that’s sexist and racist at the same time, in a way it’s like they’d be talking about their own sisters and mothers ☹️. I hate how people will take a group of people with certain physical characteristics and try to label them as one kind of personality like it’s a hive mind. Your young so I definitely understand that what they say is very impressionable on you. The internet sucks it really does, I’m really sorry that you have to go through this and in away I understand how you feel even thou our situations are different, I myself have insecurities and at one point I’d look and look and look into what I felt like my flaws were to make myself feel worse, I’d search that stuff up, I’d read articles, and look at peoples opinions online and I’d always just feel horrible about the things I hated about myself and even though I couldn’t change it, I was stuck with it forever. I had to learn to accept myself. The best ways to do that is to block or report such things you see on the internet, and get off the internet and read a book.

[Enhaut]

I do accept myself and love myself (dark skin at all) - it’s just it’s really hard to keep the consistent level of self-worth and happiness when there’s a bunch of vindictive and scary men threatening to hurt you on the internet.

[pethouse]

Yeah I can understand but I think it’s mostly just talk, but that sounds terrible, do you know these guys