My ld boyfriend likes the pics of his female teammates and friends where they show their boobs. I argue about him he says its normal?

[Deilolo]

[NoOneEver]

It’s too specific for it to be normal.

Here’s the issue I believe he’s having. He’s still in a phase where he is living his life like he always has. Essentially your long distance relationship hasn’t impacted him in a way that makes him feel like he is in a relationship at all. So he is still perusing and browsing potential prospects.

He sees these girls likely on a daily basis. So seeing them and their breasts is more personal to him than what he has going on with you.

He needs to wake up and get a grip and realize it’s one thing to notice other women but it’s a whole other to do what he is doing by focusing anything sexual on them instead of you, when you’re his current girlfriend.

As a solution I suggest this. Demand a video chat with one of the girls he thinks it’s normal to do this with. Let him know you’re going to tell her everything he said. And if he refused to do so, because now he is feeling exposed, explain to him that his desire to not have this kind of interaction just proves how ABNORMAL it actually is.

Remember to emphasize that word strongly to him.

[Deilolo]

I said I am gonna text the girl and he answered : wow and then agreed to break up acting like a victim

[NoOneEver]

See. He already is aware he is in the wrong and instead of being mature about it. He’s attempting to emotionally blackmail you into feeling afraid to lose him.

Unfortunately it sounds like he s likely aware of the fact that you like him more than he likes you.

I think what you should do is sit down and have a nice long, VOICE chat. Don’t use text as he can just run off and stop the conversation by leaving you on read.

Either Give him an ultimatum and ask him to stop or you’re gone. Or express to him how you care for him and want to work through this TOGETHER. (Emphasize the together part) but that his behavior up until now has been totally unacceptable because it trivializes your relationship as if it means nothing.

If he refuses to wake up after hearing you speak from the heart then you have a choice to make. But I wouldn’t even go this route if you don’t truly mean it and don’t plan on following through with leaving him if he doesn’t get his act together. Otherwise it just becomes melodramatic if you don’t mean your own words.

[Deilolo]

Yes totally agree I think we are done cause I asked his permission to text the girl asking what is their connection and he replied:You text any of them, never consider me your boyfriend. I am sick of these delusional accusations

[NoOneEver]

Yeah. That sucks but at least moving forward you won’t be wasting any future energy, time, or pain on him and his hurtful behaviors towards you.

If you’re really going to leave him you should probably let those girl know that the guy is a creep. Who knows what you might end up saving them from. Just share screenshots or whatever proof you have if you really end it all.

[HawkPerception]

It's disrespectful and immature to do that in a relationship. If he's still doing that, then he's still in his immature phase. If he's actually trying to justify it, then he's a lost cause at the moment.

[SueShe]

No, that is absolutely not normal. Your boyfriend is a huge red flag.

What he does but will of course never admit it is what is called emotional cheating. Looking at sexual organs of a female while being in a relationship is a big no no and a red flag.

There is only one very small step between emotional cheating and the actual physical cheating. He is about to take that step if you don't intervene.

If a man that is in a relationship has the feeling that he has to watch either pornographic content or like in your case look at other women's breasts, then this guy is the type of man that will not hesitate to cheat on you. Away with him as soon as you can.

[Deilolo]

Yes I feel the same also he is not considered of my feelings saying I am breaking up with his cause he has female friends. by the way I was waiting for him to meet 7 months while he was trying to pursue golf it did not end how he wanted and now he has no job

[valentina4eva]

wth!!😵‍💫 defff not normal!! and especially if u have brought it up with him already and he tries to say it’s “normal”? it sounds like he has no respect for ur feelings/concerns😵😵
what kind of boyfriend is liking other girls pics like that in the first place, let alone trying to pretend it’s normal? grosssss

[Alex-Snow]

Kindaa weird. Does he like these pics to look t when he masturbates? How is ur sex life with him?

[Deilolo]

Bad he is very bad in bed

[Alex-Snow]

Dump him u can do better. What makes the sex so bad?

[ohsheeT]

What kinda sport does that

[katiesmuff]

He doesn't sound like much of a boyfriend!

[Nikki1989]

Nothing normal about that at all.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

He's not a boyfriend, he's a creep.