I feel conflicted?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been dating this guy for a few months now and overall he’s honestly great. He’s funny, kind, emotionally mature all the stuff we say we want.
When we first started dating, I didn’t really notice he was balding. But over time I realized his centre is receding and there’s some thinning at the top. It wasn’t a big deal at first, but now he keeps bringing it up. He regularly says things like “It’s getting bigger and bigger,” referring to his bald spot or hairline. And now I can’t unsee it.

The more he brings it up, the more I find myself noticing it. And I kind of hate that it’s starting to affect how physically attracted I feel. I feel shallow even saying that, but I don’t know how to process it. I had that gut feeling when I looked at it last time.

Guys, how would you want your partner to handle this? Should I just stay quiet and focus on the good? Or is it valid for me to feel this way if the physical attraction is fading?

Also, why do guys point it out like that? Is it a joke? Insecurity? Fishing for reassurance? I’m not sure what to say when he does it, and it’s starting to feel awkward.

Would really appreciate honest thoughts.

[ohsheeT]

He has know confidence. My hair line was and even though I had long a hair. 1 morning woke up it was sticking everywhere. So I shave it all off. You can run that by him

[slatyb]

Why does he point it out? He's looking for an indication from you that you still accept him. It sounds like you don't. If it's a deal breaker for you, you should just tell him instead of wasting his time and yours.

I think you should think hard about ending a good relationship over something so superficial. The next man you meet may not be balding now, but could be in five or ten years. You will also be aging. Would you want to be dumped because your fade is showing your age?

[Abbycado]

My first guess is fishing for reassurance that you are okay with it. Since you really haven't commented one way or the other, he keeps bringing it up to see if you will.

Just a guess.

[glennos89]

He feels insecure and crap about it that's why he is bringing it up so often.
He wants to be reassured that it's not a problem for you.

The good news is that baldness can be treated by taking hair implantation. I know a guy who was old and balding very much. After this threatment the hair implants made his hair grow again

[Anonymous]

He's fishing for reassurance because he senses you are put off by it. The fact you haven't reassured him is sad.

You are definitely being shallow here. Many men your age are beginning to bald, so you are hurting yourself if you are going to limit your dating pool to men without receding hairlines.

[BarryLiverstone]

How bad is it? And will he be bald in a year? I’d say that he feels insecure and is worried he is less attractive.

[Colin234234]

Eesh, sounds like something else