My boyfriend has been physically abusive in the past, because of this I left many times but always came back. Now it’s like I rarely come around anymore. I make excuses and keep myself busy to stay away out of fear and to keep myself safe but then I feel bad. When I do come around, I’m always on guard because I never know what it is I can say or do to have him flip. He hasn’t touched me in months but like I said it has a lot to do with the fact I stay away more often than I use to. I feel like I owe him. I feel that I owe him to be the girlfriend who puts up with some “rough” times and accepts the good and bad. I just feel like me giving him yet another chance, rather I come around a lot or not, it would make me look like a bad guy to forgive him, start to come back around sometimes to just disappear on him and go ghost for the sake of getting myself better, healing and moving on from him. As I said, I just feel like I owe him something, when I know I don’t, but I feel that way. I feel like if I for once choose myself over him, get the help I need, stop jumping when he says jump and end things with him, I would hurt him but at the same time he’s hurt me plenty of times and a lot worse so why do I care about him being hurt over me doing the right thing for myself and leaving? Despite how I feel about him.
Superb Opinion
you do not owe him anything.
you do not need to be treated like that.
it seems once an abuser it never changes, or for more than a little while.
He is playing on your guilt to keep you around, and his abuse may get worse in the future.
You need to break the cycle of abuse and leave for good and never look back or go back, or it will just continue.
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You have two options.
leave him and make him your ex.
or buy a spade and dig a hole in the garden.
make it a bit long then you and a bout 3 feet deep.
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