We have some ups and downs in our relationship. But we do love each other...
In our conversation I mention that I didn't want to invite some relatives to the marriage. Because I don't want to be judge on either side. (Both from them and his parents etc. Just to clarify: His parents will still attend the wedding...)
In turn he became offend and commented how fuck up that was. Even mentioning why I hate his parents etc.
I told him before that I dislike his parents once because of how disrespected I felt, how manipulative, and harsh their words and treatment of him has made me dislike them. But that was all. I don't hate them as a whole as everytime I met his family they have been civil and I suppose pleasant... I know we have our difference and I did attempt connect with them. But it has failed miserably due to situation.
I was already exhausted by the time we discussed this. (Around 10ish) So I was too numb to comment more. But after arguing and his comment of how vengeful I am. (I didn't had the heart to repeat myself why I dislike them or explain more details on the disrespect portion as he call me out... Or well I tried but he said that wasn't justifeld as we have different culture and that I should understand... )
I tried telling him that I don't hate his parents. But rather I feel hesitate due to the past... His parents and brother has said some words to him. That has caused us to conflict which felt each time we should break up. But somehow we are still here... He also mention proudly that compare to my side of the family. They will speak clearly if they hate someone. So I find it odd that me disliking them on some facts is so wrong. When he mention hour ago it was fine and better to state so.
I feel exhausted and torn. It is painful to know that my attempt with them before is nothing in his eyes. It hurts so much that I'm becoming to realize I don't want to marry him anymore... But we are engaged so I shouldn't take this thought lightly...
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Comments like that are never a good look even when things are calm the words remain with how much drama is in this situation I don't see how this marriage would work out u clearly have a dislike for some of his family and they the same towards u with him clearly not going to pick sides seems pointless
Thanks for being honest. , _ ,
Oh, girl, just because you are engaged doesn’t mean you can’t break it off.
Please, leave them. Love is not the only thing that can hold a relationship.
You deserve to marry into a family that loves you, and you love them.
Imagine if you have children, and you need someone to watch them. You wouldn’t want to raise them in an environment where two side are not happy with each others family. You would be hesitant to leave them with his side. ;-;