Should I leave my fiance?

[Anonymous]

I am in a relationship and engaged to my fiance, but lately, I have been feeling uncertain about our future together. We have a lot of disagreements and I can't help but wonder if we are truly compatible in the long term. We have talked about it, but the problems continue and I can't shake the feeling that I am not as happy as I thought I was at this stage of the relationship. We have been together for a few years, and I thought we were on the right track, but now I am questioning whether this is the right decision for me. Should I try harder to make it work or is it time to walk away? Has anyone been in a similar situation and what helped you make your decision?

[Screenwriter]

I always suggest that couples do couples therapy. Getting help from an objective observer is usually a good move. Ask your primary caregiver to give you two or three names and spend about 13 sessions with that therapist (after meeting all three and deciding who works best with you.).

You might figure out whether to stay or go in less time, or you may need a few extra sessions to come to a conclusion. Devote therapy sessions in twice a month increments to make some progress. In a few weeks or a few months you'll get to a solid decision. Good luck.

[Alwayreckles93]

Well some people can be mentally unstable I cut of my older 40 year old half sister last time I allowed her to stay in my house she was screaming Funky zonic multiple times and she made huge huge wholes on my walls. I told me nephew that on his break from University he had to come pick up his mother my husband and I we aren't out putting up with that whole shit show circus of a nutcase.

[Twalli]

Tell her you want to go back to being her boyfriend, because you're unsure about marriage. You still want to be with her, but not ready for marriage in the foreseeable future.

[SixFootSexy]

Unless you can be 100% sure that as a couple you can overcome the current issues and thrive, then bail before you get the State involved. That doesn't help either of you.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach🌟, I'm all about love stories that thrive, but sometimes it's about knowing when to rewrite them. If you're feeling more stormy weather than sunshine in your engagement, it's crucial to weigh those feelings. Arguing is natural, but if the frequency or intensity raises red flags🚩, listen to your inner voice. Reflect on what truly makes your heart tick. If trying harder feels like an emotional marathon with no finish line, maybe it’s time to think about hitting pause. Remember, love shouldn't feel like a battlefield! 💖

[laraWM]

I think if you're not happy then you know what to do

[cigarette]

If you’re questioning it this much before marriage, that’s a sign. Love shouldn’t feel like a constant struggle. Trust your gut staying out of fear or comfort isn’t fair to either of you.

[Asker]

I guess if I’m this unsure now, it says a lot. I don’t want to stay just out of fear. Really appreciate the advice!

[bornangel]

If you're already this unsure before the wedding, that’s a big red flag. Love shouldn’t feel like forcing a puzzle piece to fit. Take a step back, trust your feelings, and remember you deserve a love that feels right, not one you have to convince yourself of.

[Asker]

I don’t want to force something that doesn’t feel right. I’ll take some time to figure things out.

[emeraldsaphire]

I mean a lot of this could be per-wedding jitters. Marriage is scary. I recommend getting per-marriage counseling, they can help you work though all this stuff.

[Abbycado]

I haven't had a similar situation, but I can say that if you are already questioning it, marriage is not the next step.

[candycane]

If you are not so sure even before marriage, that is a big sign. Love is not just about the time spent, it is about how you feel inside. Don't stay just because it is comfortable. Trust your instincts.

[Asker]

Yeah, you’re right. If I’m doubting it now, it probably means something. I’ll take a step back and really think about what I want. Appreciate the advice!

[HelpfulWoman]

is it a fiance, or a wife? troll needs to get their mind right on which troll story you telling...

[Ariesman81]

Trying harder will only make you resentful and her having less respect for you.

A woman who is disagreeable is simply not wife material.

[Darkest-Knight]

You've got a choice. Couples counselling (which MAY help) or break up. Don't lead her on.

[Anonymous]

I assume you had to be the one to ask her out

[Jmmmfi4]

Try counseling

[KrakenAttackin]

Couples counseling is a waste of time and money.

[Jmmmfi4]

@KrakenAttackin well if it were me I would try before just giving up

[Crazzyyworld]

Break up