Aw man sis, that sounds like a really tough situation. 7 years is a long time to invest and call off an engagement is a huge decision.
From what you described though, it really doesn't seem like this dude is putting in any effort to make you feel cared for and prioritized, you know? Barely any communication, dates or quality time together is super not cool when you're supposed to be planning your life together.
But on the flip side, suddenly hating someone after so long does make me think maybe your emotions are amplified right now cause you're stressed and unhappy. Breaking up should really only happen if you truly feel in your heart the relationship has run its course.
Maybe take a step back before making any big calls. See how you feel after your programs done and the pressure's off a bit. Consider counseling to work through it properly too if you really want to try saving it
But sis, you don't deserve to settle or force something that's not right for you just cause it's comfortable. At the end of the day, you gotta follow your gut on what will make YOU happy long run. Sending hugs - you've got this!
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If its really too much just tell him to put it all on ice.
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So sorry this is awful he is so used to you!
The. Used to you being gone not busy and just with his friends... Does he have a good job?
I'd have a real talk with him and then break up!
Marriages need work and that is just a shit finance! He would act this way even if you did get married!
It's so hard finding time for a date! I'd slap my hubby if he acted like our date was a chore!
Sounds like there is very little sex life also!
So sorry here is a big hug. Hate it took 7 years for this!
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