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Not sure if my mind is making the right decision should I do one of these options?

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my fiance and I have known each other for almost 10 years and we had dated before and broke up due to rumours going around. I got in another relationship but unfortunately that didn't work out and a few years later i met my fiance again and decided to reconnect as friends. However we ended up having feelings for each other again and decided to give it a try. He has a child whom i love and adore however the first 2 years were extremely hard and made or relationship difficult due to the mother of the child. He would call her baby sometimes when he's on the phone and i found one text message where he texted her at 3 in the morning calling her baby. It even got so bad that he called me her name in the bedroom at one point. i gave him an option to either make it work with me or set some boundaries. So he decided to set some boundaries. Now fast forwarding to today, I have gone in to surgery which prevents me from having intimacy with him. It has been 2 years and we have been fighting almost everyday, and the way he speaks to me doesn’t make things any better. its even got a bit violent (he has not hit me its the opposite) and normally im not like this. I would beg him to listen to how i feel or to speak to me properly and would get so frustrated. He would dismiss my feelings and make me feel like im overreacting. Now i had reconnected with an old friend where we speak every day good morning good nights he would make me feel good about myself complimenting me etc. and i have asked my fiance to either give up his drinking habits or he loses me but now i like this other guy and i dont know what to do. I love my fiance a lot i just feel there's no communication as he refuses to talk to me sometimes and there's no understanding on his part. My question is i only have been texting this guy but should i just speak to him to see if there is a connection there or should i try to work it out with my fiance and assess the situation to see if its something i want his lifestyle.

Not sure if my mind is making the right decision should I do one of these options?
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