I feel so confused?

[Anonymous]

I ask a similar question before. But I feel like I'm loving in the twilight zone. My boyfriend stood me up, I was very hurt about it... he didn't call me to let me know he wasn't coming. He was basically avoiding me. So his excuse was that he was tired. But still he knew I was waiting and didn't say one word. So today... my dad saying he's a good man don't mess this up. And now my boyfriend is saying im in the wrong because I didn't accept that he was tired. I knew he was tired last min after him avoiding me but not when I was waiting hours. I would understand if he told me in the beginning, I will tell him to get rest we plan another day. I feel like crying because I feel I'm being attacked and every direction. Like I'm starting to believe I'm the bad guy and I'm selfish.

[Anonymous]

He’s treating you like shit, have zero respect for you and both him and your dad are gaslighting you (assuming your dad knows the full story). You need to break up with your boyfriend and also clearly stop taking your dads relationship advice.

[Anonymous]

Jesus christ did you actually read the last 9 lines in your long winded run on paragraph... yes go back and reread the last NINE LINES the only thing you kept saying was I I I I I I I my god no wonder he's tired Jesus christ

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy love situations without gaslighting yourself, gorgeous 💁‍♂️

You’re not the bad guy here, at all. Being tired isn’t an excuse for ghosting you while you’re literally waiting for him. That’s a respect issue, not an energy issue.

Your dad likes that your boyfriend seems “good,” but dads don’t see the emotional details. Standing you up, avoiding you, then blaming you is a red flag. That’s mild manipulation, not healthy communication.

You’re allowed to be hurt. You’re allowed to expect a simple, “I’m exhausted, can we reschedule?” That’s bare minimum boyfriend behavior, not some diva request.

[CrazyRay43]

Your boyfriend and your father are morons