Are women who say they are "Sapiosexual" (attracted to intelligence) simply lying?

[msc545]

I think that, in order, women are attracted to:

1. MONEY (if there is enough, the next two things may matter a lot less).

2. Apppearance (including height)

3. Intelligence (Maybe not too much of it)

What do you think, and why?

[ProbablyClueless]

Maybe not lying, but my theory is that women are attracted to the men who make them feel the way the women want to feel.


A woman who wants to feel like she has tied herself to The next big innovator is going to like an intelligent man. A woman who wants arm candy is going to want the rich, 6’2 man she can show off to her girlfriends. A woman who gets her sense of validation from being needed is going to be attracted to a man who is perpetually down on his luck (and she might even sabotage/enable his behavior to ensure he stays dependent).

[AvaRay]

For me, attraction to intelligence isn’t about big words or quick wit, it’s about depth, discernment, n alignment..

A man becomes truly attractive for me when he’s spiritually intelligent enough to know what’s right, emotionally intelligent enough to lead with empathy, n mentally strong enough to stay grounded in his values..

IQ alone can make someone manipulative..

EQ without wisdom can make them lost..

But when intelligence is guided by faith, morality, n self awareness, that’s where real substance begins..

Because brilliance without conscience isn’t power, it’s danger.. 🥂😌

[jusagirllol]

I can only speak for myself, but in the long run, emotional intelligence and how a guy treats me is the most important. When I met my boyfriend 2 years ago, he didn’t have a job, but I still wanted to see him because he was handsome and sweet to me. For me the list you mentioned is:
1. Appearance (i would not go on a date with someone I don’t find attractive)
2. Personality (atm I’m more attracted to his sweet personality because I’m ”used” to his appearance, but I still find him handsome)
3. Money (I’ve got my own money)

[Staximus]

Women also love a guy who appeals to their desire for status or image-conscious nature, a guy that can make them look cool when they go out. I have a few friends that are in bands who are not particularly good looking and are goofy bastards, but they got more ass than a toilet seat because they razzle dazzled the girls with their rockstar bullshit (whether they're actually any good or not). Women love artists, even if they absolutely suck like Jackson Pollock

[Amy10223]

I dont think it's a lie. I happen to be one of those women, and I don't care about money or looks as much as I do about personality and intelligence. Of course, conceit is a turnoff.

[msc545]

Yeah I just bet you don't care about money or appearance.

[Amy10223]

Appearance has to be somewhat appealing to me. Money, zilch. You seem to have some notion about women snd money from past experiences. Not always true!

[RxR0954]

honestly that’s not the definition of sapiosexual. Basically if you’re as dumb as a potato she won’t be into you

[RxR0954]

alright im little too stoned and read it wrong

[msc545]

Yes that IS the definition:

ChatGPT said:

Sapiosexual refers to a person who is sexually or romantically attracted to intelligence in others.

In other words, for someone who identifies as sapiosexual, intellectual stimulation—such as wit, deep conversation, curiosity, or analytical thinking—is the primary factor that generates attraction, sometimes more than physical appearance or other traits.

Etymology

Derived from the Latin word sapien (“wise” or “intelligent”) and the suffix -sexual (“relating to sexual attraction”).

Example

A sapiosexual might say they find someone most attractive after a long, intellectually engaging conversation rather than through initial physical chemistry.

[msc545]

Don't smoke and write.

[RxR0954]

lol i agree with that definitely i wasn’t even talking about that, i just misread it. And Yep

[msc545]

Lol ok!

[DrPepper12]

Makes them sound self important & smart but screams "🚩🚩🚩"

[Ariesman81]

Anytime I hear a woman say she's sapiosexual, it's usually a sign she's turned on when she's overthinking. Probably correlates with anxious attachment

[msc545]

Surprisingly good insight!

[slatyb]

They are pretentious. Probably above average intelligence but not the top 1%. The really intelligent will make that point more subtly.

[beefcakebradybatson]

No, but not that many lasses are drawn solely to lads' IQ. Let's face it, we boys look at what's ON a girl's head before what's IN it, and the contents of her jeans and shorts and of course, her bra.

[AngryCarl2]

Sapiosexuality is a very specific condition. It's different to just preferring people who are smart. Most of us probably feel that way. Unless we suffer from sapiophobia.

[Sevenpointfive]

a dumb girl technically is one. it's not really her choice though.

[loveslongnails]

You would judge by who they end up with, wouldn't you?