What does it mean if a girl you never dated tries to reconnect with you after months of no contact if you were the one to mess things up?

[Anonymous]

[Mariogirl09]

She must really like you. Might be giving you the benefit of the doubt. Don't fuck it up again lol

[Asker]

I messed it up 3-4 times and she came back every time.

[Mariogirl09]

I think she really likes you or she has daddy issues I don't know

[Asker]

Or has attachment issues. If she likes me she should just let me know

[Mariogirl09]

You might have to push her a little to tell you

[Asker]

How would I do that?

[Mariogirl09]

Just like you told me... tell her if she really likes you then say it. But her coming back to you to me is saying she likes you. You seem toxic lol

[Asker]

I wouldn't say I'm toxic. I'm just immature and don't know how to handle things and suck at communicating

[Mariogirl09]

That deff can become toxic. Push pull. Avoidant attatchment. 😬

[Asker]

Yeah I understand that can be really frustrating and annoying to deal with. Do you think she keeps coming back because she really wants to be my friend?

[Mariogirl09]

Yes but this girl deserves someone who will respect her and guide her. She needs a man who doesn't play games and one who can measure her and communicate...

[Mariogirl09]

Reassure *

[Asker]

Of course. Do you think she is giving me opportunities to prove I can be that?

[Mariogirl09]

No because she keeps coming back without you changing. Its you who needs to go to her

[Asker]

I don't know what else I can do. I'm always there for her

[Mariogirl09]

Sadly... you might have to give her space if you can't step up

[Mariogirl09]

A man will change for that woman. She must not be it for you

[Asker]

I like her a lot and she knows but I don't think she likes me like that

[Mariogirl09]

I don't know i think she does. Going back to you while being mistreated. She must really care at least

[Mariogirl09]

Hi has she reached out to you yet

[Unap0logetic_]

It can mean many things, it could be like the last two commenters said. The only way to know for sure is if they’re honest with you about the situation.

[Anonymous]

Means she still likes you

[Asker]

Wait did she originally like me?

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like it

[Asker]

Why would you say that?

[Opinion Owner]

Because she reconnected even though it was your fault

[Asker]

We never even dated

[Opinion Owner]

If she came back after it was your fault e probably likes you

[Opinion Owner]

She probably likes you

[Asker]

This also happened 3-4 different times

[Opinion Owner]

Then she almost certainly likes you

[Asker]

But she comes back after months of not us not talking. I'm skeptical of that

[Opinion Owner]

Why? Means she likes you. Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.

[Asker]

You sound so confident in thinking she likes me without all of the details in the situation

[Opinion Owner]

Tell me more

[Asker]

It's a lot

[Opinion Owner]

Ok..

[Asker]

Do you think as the man I was supposed to take the lead and define the situation?

[Opinion Owner]

Not necessarily but sometimes it helps especially if the girl is shy or traditional or both

[Asker]

I see because a lot of the time when she came back I let things just go back to how they were. I just texted. I didn't try to make plans or stuff like that

[Opinion Owner]

That’s fine but if you wanna go out with her you may have to make the first move

[Asker]

Why do I have to make the first move?

[Opinion Owner]

Because she’s not going to

[Asker]

I understand

[Opinion Owner]

Cool

[In_Trance]

It means she's bored and has no other options