What’s the deal with today’s women?

[Anonymous]

They all say “I want something real and serious” but then never date the guys that are, or ignore them or shy away from them. I think they’re just as scared as anyone else of finding something real and serious. Either that, or they always think they can do better.

But will they ever actually say that or do anything about it? No of course not, because nothing ever changes. Is it the paradox of choice? They just have so many options that any given guy is just never good enough?

[Anonymous]

Dating app? Women typically get a lot more guys messaging so it might just be too many options. Guys typically ‘like’ or try to go for a ton of women to see what sticks, where women are more selective so you might just be getting filtered out. You might have better luck outside of an app

But also someone saying they want ‘something real’ might be a red flag to me

[AvaRay]

It’s not fear, it’s clarity..

Saying I want something real n serious, isn’t casual talk, it’s a filter..

A woman knows her worth, her standards, n exactly who she ll walk beside..

Many men are available, but few r aligned n we r not shy, we r selective..

We don’t ignore commitment but we ignore those who can’t meet us there..

Real women don’t settle for serious words but we wait for the man who proves he can match our energy, our values, n our fire..

[Asker]

A lot of women think they’ll walk beside a man with 3 Ferraris and a yacht , that’s the problem.

[AvaRay]

True, but walking beside a man isn’t about Ferraris or yachts..

It’s about vision, values, n someone who can match your fire, everything else is just background noise..

[contentious]

Census data states that 23% of children in the U. S. are raised in single parent households. In previous years those figure were higher (up around 30%)... So right off the bat, you have roughly a quarter to a third of women that will self-sabotage their relationships, because a broken family is what is normal to them. The relationship examples they were given as they developed was to pick the wrong sorts of guys and to run away from commitment.

[genericname85]

what women say outwardly is that which they deem socially acceptable and respectable. they don't say what they actually think. that's why they keep asking "hat did he think, when he did xy?". because they can't even fathom the concept of someone actually saying what they mean.

[Unap0logetic_]

It could very well be that or it could also be the fact that so many people pretend to be a certain way or want certain things so that they can get what they want. That’s what I have been seeing women complain about on social media. Dating has changed a lot.

[Anonymous]

We want something real and serious, but that doesn’t mean we want that with any random willing man. We actually want to be attracted to him, like him as a person and have fun hanging out with him.

[Asker]

Yes understandable, but 80% of the time you all don’t even know if you’re attracted to him, or if you even could be, or not.

[Anonymous]

How many men do you think women meet on the daily basis? And then, how many out of those men do think are single eligible good men who fit that woman's particular lifestyle and has similar hobbies as her?

[Ariesman81]

Stop trying to make women happy. It's a futile attempt. A woman who says she wants real and serious wants it from men who are not. You should be more focused on what you want and figuring out how to get it.

[Anonymous]

they're too busy bitching and complaining about Taylor Swift's latest album

[Asker]

I heard that she was a “filthy conservative” now all because she expressed that she wanted to get married and have children lol. I swear they’re under some kind of mind virus.

[Anonymous]

You could ask the same question about men.

[Asker]

Sure, until we’re actually the one coming to women and making the effort, because we feel the attraction towards them. That’s always me because I don’t have schools of women after me where I get the pick of the litter. But when I just want to get to know someone is like a huge uphill battle.