My (30f) boyfriend (28m) gets so toxic and competitive about games its ruining our relationship?

[QuirkiestNote97]

Pokemon card game which i loved, I dropped because he'd get so mad if I beat him. Same with yugioh, and magic the gathering. Even our previous flatmates were put off the game and wouldn't play solely due to how absolutely toxic he was when he was losing. We'd either let him win or just not play. Same happened with league of legends, any boardgames we play and now today even dnd, to the point I was crying because he was mad I as GM made a ruling he didn't like (it was the literal rule as read).

So, anyone with a partner, or themselves that has had this issue? Anger issues or such a blind sided competitive nature? Coz I need some help here.

[ohsheeT]

First things first. Never let him win it's a game meant to be fun and to grow as friends

You have to put him i. His place who cares if he doesn't like what you say to him

Because your not hurting him your helping him in the long run
If you let him win that is hurting him in the long run.

Before each game read the instructions out loud, so everybody agrees. This is how the game is played and then play the game to win

In most cases I would say play the game and have fun

Because that's the way games are meant to be played. But in this case

I say, play the game to win to teach him a lesson. You can't always get what you want

Not unless you become A.
Better player smarter player but nobody's just gonna give it to you because you want it

Make him sit there and watch you guys. He can be in Time Out if he can't play right LO. L

[QuirkiestNote97]

He threaten to hit me if he keeps losing

[ohsheeT]

Why would you even play a game with him

Why would you even want to be with someone so petty over a game..
Think about it he's not good or smart enough to learn the game to win
So he bullys people that he can bully because he know they can fight back just to win a silly game

Think about real life when he's not smart enough to earn or make enough to get what he wants who does he become

There is no way in this world I would even call that person a friend

You are who you hang with.
In time it might be in the most little ways but you pick up people's habits

We are all like this

I know your not like him today but in time never know

I can hear through your words you have a beautiful heart

And maybe when you asked this question you came to fork in the road and you can go down his path or figure out who you want to be in life. But any man that says that to anyone us not all there and is capable of anything for all the wrong reasons

[HawkPerception]

Yeah that's extremely immature. Hate to say it. I never treat games seriously, especially with loved ones. I won a game of Monopoly once against my ex and poked fun at everyone saying, "You guys should come to me for business advice now" and stuff like that and she got so offended by it, even though I was clearly being sarcastic.

It's honestly a huge turn off when people take games so seriously. They're supposed to be for fun and de-stressing. Not the opposite.

[slatyb]

Does he understand this is a problem? If he can't lose graciously, he should not play. I was trying to be a serious bridge player at about the same age, and behaved similarly. It's a partnership game and I was abusive to my partners. I stopped playing for some years and came back much better behaved.

[QuirkiestNote97]

He seems to be self-aware to a certain degree.

[butterly248]

How long had he been a man child for?

[QuirkiestNote97]

We've been playing every weekend since march this year

[butterly248]

Stop playing

[QuirkiestNote97]

But its fun for both of us.

[In_Trance]

So don't play with him anymore

[Anonymous]

Can't relate

[QuirkiestNote97]

Then why comment?