What do you think of guys who had friends with benefits n sex with his ex? Will it still feel special with me?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend first sex experience was friends with benefits with this girl that he met online. She asked him to be her boyfriend 3 times which he rejected all. He wanted it to be casual. But for the 4th times she was a crying mess n he felt bad n trapped n since she keeps saying there’s no harm in trying they gave it a shot. Their rs was physical heavy w sex involve almost everyday. Their rs lasted about a year n 4 months. He broke things off bcz he couldn’t see a future w her. They remain friend. Not long after she got a ‘new’ boyfriend. One day when my boyfriend n his ex was hanging out at her place she kissed him out of nowhere. He pushed her n say it’s wrong cuz she is in a rs. She broke up with the ‘new’ boyfriend n suggested friends with benefits w my boyfriend. He agreed bcz at that time he was single n it was convenient. After a while he felt weird about it n stop friends with benefits w his ex n found another girl. Not long after that he met me. I’ve made it clear from the start that I’ll want to wait till marriage to have sex. N even after knowing that he stills pursue me n want to be in a committed relationship. Now, 5 months in our rs he has nvr pushed my boundary. Since sex is kind of sacred to me i kind of wander if it will be less special to him if we ever do it bcz obv he alr has his first casual n in rs w his ex?

[SueShe]

Well, it looks as if your future ex husband is the kind of guy that places sex and fornication above many things in life.

He is obviously very interested in the copulating part of a relationship and has no problem breaking and making relationships once the novelty has faded with the old girlfriend.

No, it definitely will not feel special because he knows what the copulation is all about and he may pretend that it is something new to him but with that kind of body count he has had in the past, it will definitely not feel like something he has never experienced before.

[Abbycado]

Hw cld u evn rd ths?

[SueShe]

@Abbycado Wizz zee elp ov AbbyAI

[Abbycado]

Oh, silly me. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I should have known.

[Amy_Mi]

That depends, not on what he’s done, but on who he’s become.

A man’s past doesn’t make him unworthy, but his inability to grow from it does.

If his history taught him nothing about depth, respect, or restraint, then no it won’t feel special.

It’ll just feel repeated.

But if he’s evolved, if he’s learned that connection is sacred and chemistry means more when it’s chosen, not convenient then yes, it can still be special.

Because intimacy isn’t about who he touched before you.

It’s about whether his soul recognizes he’s finally touching something real.

[ShyAndFun]

I just learned what sex actually is lol in Korea we avoid that topic a lot. But if it with you I think he will find it special.

[jahaims]

It's immature to keep contact with an ex

[In_Trance]

Fuck around and find out