Am I in love with my ex friends with benefits even though he was horrible to me when we were together?

[Anonymous]

I'm a teenager. I was in a friends with benefits relationship with a guy from school where he was horrible to me. He asked me for "pics", forced me when i refused, gaslit me, expected me to be available for him 24/7 and even asked me to make out with his friends (after we ended it) while i was dating someone! Basically, he treated me like a free escort. When we ended things for good, i couldn't stop thinking about him. I actually made fake scenarios in my head about us being together! I still do these things, but not as much as before. Does this mean I'm in love with him? I'm asking this because i don't wanna be in love with someone who treated me so horribly and ruined my mental health. please be honest.

[Bmories99]

Ask yourself why do you want to go back? Is this your first relationship? I would seriously talk with friends and let them help you through this. My guess is that you knew where you stood in the relationship with him. And what you are really craving is that feeling of being in a relationship with someone. The term for this is pinning. Good luck to you and please never let some one treat you theway he did unless that is what you want or consent to. I think you will be able to find a guy who notably respects you but treats you right.

[Gremlinimo]

It sounds like you're missing what you had and/or feel scared about moving on. That doesn't mean it is/was love, it means change brings uncertainty and we all tend to cling on to things we know are coming to an end, as humans have an unnerving fear of moving into the unknown. You're young. Tuck this into your belt, and move along to the next thing. Remember to learn lessons from the things you tuck into your belt.

He used you. You shouldn't forgive him for that x

[AsaKyo]

Don't you have better things to do than screw around with people? You're still in high school for crying out loud..

[xiaolian]

I have to tell u but he never liked u, I think u liked him, u have a anxious atachment style, u attract that type of guys, if u want atract others u need boundaries and put yourself first

[mr4435669]

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Keep sending them nude photos.

[Guy13]

Go see a counselor...