Is my friends with benefits gonna forgive me?

[Anonymous]

So I've had a friends with benefits for 2.5 months. He comes over, we have sex and he leaves.. that's it. My friends found out that I had a friends with benefits so they tried to fix me up with a boyfriend. It didn't work. I even told my friends with benefits about it and he didn't seem to care. My ex-boyfriend came over the other night and found out that my friends were trying to get me a boyfriend. He love bombed me which sucked! After asking my ex a few questions, his only reason for coming over was because he didn't want me to get a boyfriend and get "snatched up". We are only friends, we hung out and he got a little drunk. I let him stay the night. He didn't have sex with me, but I did let him hold me all night. I haven't been held in a long time and it felt really good. He left in the morning. I told my friends with benefits what had happened and he is pissed! He is so mad that I let him spend the night and let him hold me. My friends with benefits eventually wanted our relationship to go to the boyfriend/girlfriend level and I had no idea. If I had known I never would of let my ex-boyfriend in my house and totally would of handled the situation differently. Do you think he'll ever forgive me? I told him to take some time to think about everything and I haven't heard from him since. It's only been a couple of days.

[Anonymous]

Why would he have to forgive you? What’s to forgive?

Look. It’s real simple. You two were having sex regularly and he was catching feelings for you. It’s easy to have happen and doesn’t happen right away. He was probably still trying to figure out his feelings for you and wondering if he’d be overstepping boundaries by wanting something more and making a move for a deeper relationship.

By spending the night with your ex and cuddling with him, you’ve demonstrate to your friends with benefits that you still have feelings for your ex, still have some emotional connection with him, which basically means you’re spoken for. It isn’t “over” between you two.

For all he knows you and your ex are planning a weekend get away where he can screw your brains out. I can completely understand why he’s mad. Some other guy is weasling in on what he was trying to have going with you, and it’s a guy you slept with in the past.

He may have simply decided to cut his losses and move on. It wouldn’t surprise me.

[Asker]

I have no feelings for my ex at all. He got drunk, spent the night, and passed out holding me. I liked being held. I only told my friends with benefits because I thought it was something he should know.

[Opinion Owner]

And look where that’s gotten you. 🤷‍♂️

[driven159]

This is what's happens when people are not honest and play games you had sex with him for two and a half years only a person that would not have some feeling would have to be brain dead and if you didn't have feelings for him, you would be worried about it so you both of guilty of playing games

[Asker]

2.5 months... not years. No game playing at all here.

[driven159]

only months then no time invested then move on to the next one

[Ruenella_]

He'll forgive you.

[Asker]

Thanks! I certainly hope so!!