How do I get over trauma?

[Anonymous]

I was SA'ed as a child multiple times, one being by another kid my age at the time and the other by my own step-dad, and both got away Scott free, (I'm not sure about the me being Sa'ed by another kid, but I believe the police never took it seriously because we were both kids)

I've have now been in a relationship with a man I really do love for a bit now, but I've been wanting to get intimate for a bit now but im still scared from my past, honestly, just nervous overall.

One night something did start between us, but I broke down unexpectedly when he simply just pressed his hips on my butt. I need some advice on just how to make myself less anxious about this stuff I should say? (I really don't know how to word this I'm so sorry) any advice will help though.

[MemeSupreme]

honestly im still figuring that out but i'm better than i used to be

besides therapy, healthy communication, having a partner that respects you, and not forcing it helped me. having repeated positive experiences with physical contact matters too and i dont mean sex

its definitely a long process lol

[MemeSupreme]

just dont use unhealthy coping methods in order to have sex. i did that and i regret it. numbing out everything is bad

[Amy_Mi]

Getting over trauma isn’t about forgetting, it’s about reclaiming control.

Acknowledge what happened without letting it define your present or dictate your future.

Seek clarity, reflection, and support, therapy, honest conversations, and self awareness are tools, not weaknesses.

Healing is measured by regained strength, boundaries, and perspective, not by speed.

Trauma fades in power as you rise above it, fully aware and fully present.

[Anonymous]

If he truly cares about you, he will be willing to wait until your ready. Make sure you make the situation clear to him, so he understands you better.

[Anonymous]

Therapy might work

Eliminating the problem may also work

[jazzy34]

Therapy.

[Danny_dan92]

Therapy

[jahaims]

Therapy