When is the right time to tell him? How would he react? How should I approach it?

[Ba0licious]

One of my biggest fear in dating is that when I come across the right guy, and he wants to settle, I can’t be honest with him. It is not that I don’t want to, but I don’t know how. When I was young, I had couple abortions. When I married my ex husband, I was trying to get pregnant, but I couldn’t. I don’t know why, but my ex husband and I learned that I can’t get pregnant anymore. Because my ex husband wanted a family, we got a divorce. Ever since, I can never bring my issue to the men I’m dating.

[Cormac995]

This is one of the reasons abortions should be avoided as much as possible. It's likely they made you infertile. I'm sorry for your circumstances this is a really tough emotional spot to be in and you have my sympathy. It's understandable that this is hard for you to be open about even with someone you trust. I'm afraid I don't have an answer for you but just make it clear when your dating kids aren't an option and if they press on why just tell them you'll tell them when you're ready and if they make a stink that means they're pushy and controlling which is a red flag anyways.

[BadApple69]

Honestly at your age just saying to the man you are dating that you don’t want children at your age should be acceptable.


This should be a lesson here for all those young girls who think that abortions are the right thing to do. There is a cost for everything in life.


I am truly sorry this is the cost you had to pay.

[Nikki1989]

There is no easy way, but there is a right way—a way that protects your future happiness by screening for a truly compassionate and compatible partner.

[RHK36]

I've found being honest and open is always the best way to go if you don't want feelings of regret or feel like you're hiding things. I can't change how people behave or react, all I can control are my actions.

[slatyb]

You don't have to tell anyone, as it doesn't affect them. Most men won't care, and you don't want to be with the ones who would judge you for it.

[Staximus]

You're 43, it doesn't matter anymore. That ship has sailed, lady. You can just say you didn't have kids because you couldn't or had trouble getting pregnant.

[Staximus]

That's not something you lie about or keep a secret if you want the relationship to last

[Jennz6]

Tell him on the first date