What should I tell him?

[brebre234]

Hi everyone so it been a long time since I posted. I been busy as heck. But anyway, I been talking to this guy that I met through a mutual friend. He's super sweet and I really like him and he likes me. However im a bit concerned. We been talking everyday but all of a sudden we been distant because of his depression. I did not know he had depression. I took it personal cause I thought he ghosted me at first. I was there to support him but I wish he was a bit more open about letting me know he had depression. I want to express this to him but not come off as selfish. I want to say to him that I was really concerned that something happened to him and if he was gonna go Mia please let me know by text or something. Being in a relationship is all about communication so I want him to express how he feels. But at the same time I don't wanna come off as forceful or pushy. How can I express my feelings regarding communication to him? I am sorry if this is confusing by the way. My mind is boggled and all over the place. My energy is just drained from me stressing and worrying about him. Thank you!!

[Marcuslrh]

It will be because the relationship is just starting really he most likely doesn't want to put everything he is going through onto you, everything you have been wanting to say is fine just let him know you was worried that all sounds fine 🙂

[brebre234]

Thank you! Yeah I told him this and was hoping j didn't come off as selfish or anything! 😃

[Marcuslrh]

It's not selfish well I wouldn't see it like that, it's good to know that someone cares especially when your going through a hard time.

[brebre234]

Thank you and I also expressed how I was at first hurt cause I thought I was ghosted lol. But i want him to trust me and know that I'm here for him 😃😃

[Marcuslrh]

You're welcome and it's not selfish expressing you're feelings either even if someone is having a tough time which is why that type of communication is key really so they know it's better to just let you know in the future but a lot of people struggle to communicate stuff like that it's just how it is unfortunately.

[brebre234]

Yes I 100% understand and respect that 😁

[CloudScraper]

Either he’s decided not to pursue you and he’s using this as an excuse or he’s got something he needs to work on.

[brebre234]

Yeah I legit believe he's depressed though. He's in the military and does a lot of mma fighting. Mma is pretty much his life. He tore his acl which means he's out for a while. He expressed how much he likes me. I just wish he was bit more open when it came to being depressed instead of going mia. I heard from him today and expressed this to him