Recover the intimacy?

[Anonymous]

Married 22 years

She loves me

Sometimes, a lot, I hate her

She remains unfazed

Sometimes she's a bitch

Should I try? Or move on?

We have kids. A house.
I'm not young🙂

[Staximus]

Ask yourself why you hate her. Does she deserve your hate, or is it just familiarity breeds contempt? You marry another woman, there's going to be something else you don't like about her

[Staximus]

If you think there's such thing as a perfect relationship then you've been watching too many movies

[Asker]

You're right. Familiarity breeds contempt
I still respect her
We have had distance

[PeachyPie93]

Well if it is fixable try counselling.. if you still feel you hate her separate.. if after a year you don't miss her and feel better on your own divorce..

[Asker]

Separating is so difficult
Due to property issues
My house
Where does she go. I get her a house that's definitive separation

[Asker]

It's not like when you're young
And you are living separately

And if she issues divorce proceedings I might have to sell all assets and lose this house

[PeachyPie93]

Well that is the price you pay.. I left my husband and all his shit because I couldn't care less since I could always rebuild. It's up to you how you want to go about things and how evil your wife truly is..

[Asker]

That's it
She's not terrible
Not worth the strife of starting over
That's not to say I'm happy
We coexist

[Anonymous]

U don’t love her so why bother

[Asker]

That's one way of looking at it

And I don't know if I ever really loved her. And for a while I didn't even fancy her

But with family, children if I can make it work then I'd like to try

[Asker]

I feel I have a life I can enjoy
I know what's it's like to start over. Not nice

[Opinion Owner]

I pity your wife. She doesn’t deserve u

[Asker]

Surprise, surprise you taking the woman's side

Is it possible this is a natural, common situation and that the wife is partly to blame for being hated? Is that possible?

[Asker]

Actually I take your point
My fault she's married to a man who doesn't see her good qualities

Everything is tarnished

What can I say... That's life

[Opinion Owner]

Leave her

[Opinion Owner]

She’s better off

[Asker]

I'll decide on my own good time

[Opinion Owner]

She has already mentally checked out lol. Not everything is decided by u