Is it shady to leave someone who never asks how I am?

[Anonymous]

Boyfriend/baby dad never asks how I am

[HighValue]

Do for him what you want him to do for you. To be blunt and realistic, would you rather be single and alone raising your kid for the next 20+ years? I don't know how long you two have been together, but at your age it is often better to try to work on your relationship with BOTH people putting in the same effort before giving up. Dating prospects for women past 30 with kids are extremely slim.

[Zack-Bann]

Out of the blue it is shady as fuck.


Maybe a have conversation with him
A real conversation not just nagging him about it.


If you guys have a kid together it’s beyond irresponsible to just drop and go like that.


What will you tell your kid when asked why you split up
“Oh your dad never asked how I was doing so I subjected you to the royal mess that is single parenting”
Hardly seems fair

[Tereza07]

I mean yeah it is pretty mean but if comunicate normally he asks about your day just dont ask about your feelings you might work on that i think. Maybe its just a bad habit from his side

[Anonymous]

I mean do you ever ask, I mean really ask? do you ever let him be in the right, do you ever start a fight, I think there's more to this than you are letting on.

I mean do you ever wonder why he might not be asking?

[Asker]

I can't force someone to be interested in me. I've called him out before. He even asks his friends how his day is. Ugh

[RHK36]

Maybe after conversations about it. To leave without talking is an overreaction.

[Staximus]

Do you live with him?

[Asker]

Yes I do

[Staximus]

Have you told him it bothers you that he never asks?

[Asker]

Yes I asked him why does he never ask me that but always asks his friends

[Staximus]

Is he affectionate and tells you he loves you? Does he take good care of your child and you?

[Asker]

he's only affectionate when I show affection. He tells me he loves me back. He helps with our child but he doesn't go above and beyond. He can treat me better. he's lazy

[Staximus]

I get that you feel like your emotional needs are not being met, but there is no such thing as the perfect person. You could leave him for another guy who caters more to your emotional needs but smokes meth behind your back, or is a raging drunk, or beats you, or gambles away the rent money.

[Asker]

The plan was to get to know someone deeper than rushing next time. I get that and I hope I dont run into someone like that but im at my wits end here

[Asker]

My baby daddy is abusive too. He doesn't even last in bed. Wtf am I staying for

[Staximus]

If he's physically or emotionally abusive then you should leave

[Danny_dan92]

What a wonderful couple

[Alex-Snow]

That sucks... dump his ass

[Anonymous]

Depends how hot he is.