Why do I get more attention in person than on dating apps?

[Anonymous]

I know that the ratio of men to women on dating apps is really big on one side, but I still don't understand the reason for this disparity. I have some clear pictures of me, me with my cats, and me doing activities. I made a bio stating my intentions for long term, and nothing... Absolutely nothing. But in real life, I get told that I'm a beautiful looking man, funny, and would get hit on sometimes just going out, and doing my own thing. Is it a vibes thing, or are people just shallow on dating apps?

[Anonymous]

First off, understand that 95% (not an exaggeration) of women on dating apps are not interested in dating ANY guy (save for that rare unicorn she'll NEVER find on a dating app). When you realize this it make you understand your TRUE odds with online dating. This isn't a "YOU" problem, it's a "Them" problem.

Secondly your pictures don't SOUND to bad. Where a lot of guys make there mistakes is just posting selfies. You have to view pics as a story teller. Women look a Pic and formulate a story about you. Is it accurate? It doesn't f***ing matter. Most women are TERRIBLE judges of character. That is why they make so many mistakes. So don't think about showing who you are. Just think about what each picture will convey, and what all the pictures say about the summation of you.

Finally, I advise any guy that will listen to leave their bio BLANK. I'm not kidding. Women are HIGHLY judgmental. All you're doing by creating a bio is you're giving her REASONS to reject you. When guy looks to date a woman he usually has a 3 point criteria. When a woman looks to date a man she has about a 300 point criteria. And if you FAIL any one of those 300 criteria she'll cross you off the list. By creating a bio you're just listing reasons for her to cross you off. A lot of women won't even read your profile. Most the women I've dated on dating apps never even read my profile. But when I deleted my bio completely, my matches increased five-fold. Women typically just look at you pics and the goblins in her head start writing the story about you. And I promise you, what the goblins in her head create about you are far far better to her than anything you could right. So just leave your bio blank. Don't give her an unjustified reason dismiss you by telling her something she don't really wanna hear.

[beenherebefore]

Chances are you’re better looking in person.