Guys, would you be okay with a message like this or scared off?

[Anonymous]

Context:
I recently got out of a breakup and was not in the right headspace to talk to a guy so soon, especially one I found this lovely. So pulled back, but he showed respectful interest all the way and understood. He implied he would welcome a text under calmer times.

So, now after I feel clearer of mind, I'd like to text, but I can be a bit intense. Is this too much?

"Hi. My life is more sorted now. I felt we connected, even briefly and I don't often feel that way. And would love to see if it could work. I quite like the way your mind works and our interests are similar. And honestly, I find you beautiful. The way you explain your thought prossess, how you talk and the heart underneath. Which was the reason I pulled back."

[Summeroflove]

You can try. But if someone rejected you no matter the reason they told you…. If they are interested I typically leave the ball in their court. You can attempt to text but if you either get told no or don’t get a direct response maybe no response. Leave it to him.

There is other people out there and some people frankly aren’t interested. But also…. If you pulled back. That can cause someone to loose interest. Try. See what happens. That’s the best I can give you. But be respectful about it.

[Asker]

His last message implied he'd be there. It was kinda poetic and indirect but that's one of the reasons I quite enjoyed him.

I understand.
And I respect the honesty it takes to say that - it’s rare and beautiful in its own way.
I’ve learned that some chapters don’t end, they just go quiet for a while. Life reshapes us, and when the storm passes, we often find familiar lights still waiting on the horizon.

Does this not imply he'd welcome it?

[Summeroflove]

I respect when someone is respectfully honest as well… Many people are cowards and many people string people along to feed their own ego.

I would say. Try…. And go from there. If he says yes then see where it goes.

[Asker]

Thanks!

[Summeroflove]

Absolutely

[Staximus]

Well the message you want to send him is not too much, it was your behavior. If your prior relationship was abusive then that's understandable. If not, your inability to move on and still being a mental case over your ex boyfriend was too much. If you are still thinking about your ex and that relationship then leave this guy alone. If you have actually moved on and this guy still wants something to do with you, go for it.

[Nikki1989]

Anything worth saying is not worth a pointless text. Take it to the next level or just don't bother.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't scare me off. But I wouldn't call him beautiful. Or talk about his heart underneath.

Unless you're CERTAIN this guy isn't going to exploit this. Keep in mind the mindset you were in. Which means you might have been alert (have your spider senses on) so to speak.

It's UNFORTUNATE, but man or woman, it's always best to assume that they're just playing one big game with you. Be friendly, be real, but ALWAYS be on your guard.

[Opinion Owner]

Might not have been on alert* I meant.

[Asker]

Maybe I'm naive, but he truly did seem genuine. I've stalked a little too in the meantime, and he seems respectful. Only red flag was arrogance, but that often comes with great intelligence, which is his main appeal.

But perhaps you are right. That it isn't smart to be too open about what I think of him.

[Asker]

Stalked as in, checking his social media etc. Not following around like a lunatic 😅

[Anonymous]

To me that sounds fake. Likes it’s not genuine. Maybe it’s just your age as far as how you wrote it.

[HighValue]

Seems fine to me.

[Jennz6]

Try doing what @Nikki1989 said

[dudeinohio]

Sure
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