How do I tell a guy nicely that he talks too much?

[Anonymous]

I went on a second date and this man spoke for two hours straight about himself, ... again. First time around I thought it's because he is nervous. I tried to get some comments in but he spoke over me each time. During a two hour conversation I maybe got in five minutes of talking. And I swear I'm not over exaggerating.

I feel like that might be a red flag too.

He wants to go on another date but I told him that I don't think that we are a good match for a romantic relationship. Now he wants to know why. How do I nicely tell him that he talks too much and the fact that he interrupted me each time is very selfish and disrespectful. Or do I just say it like that?

I have a friend that does the same thing. I can put my phone down, go pee, pore a glass of water and come back to my phone and she had no idea that I was gone.

My ex was the same. It doesn't start of that way but after a few months they become like this.

Firstly, why do I attract these people and secondly, what do I tell him. Should I just say it straight forward so that he knows what to work on, or is it a me issue. Two hours people, TWO HOURS about THEMSELVES.

[HollyK21]

You don’t owe him an explanation, it’s already nice enough that you formally ended things. I think it would be different if this were a breakup, then yeah give each other that closure. But this is just a first date that didn’t work out, it just wasn’t a love match. I also think it would open the door for you to be gaslit and guilt tripped. There’s no perfect way to tell a person something you don’t like about them, they’re either going to be receptive or turn it around and make you feel like a jackass. Someone like him who wants to over-talk you to speak about himself gives me the impression that he wasn’t trying to get to know you in the first place, so there isn’t much loss there.

[Summeroflove]

Red flag…. Especially if they are dismissive of you. Be respectful and be honest. Better to be direct with someone then not…. At the end of the day if you don’t feel it’s meant to be you don’t owe him a long exclamation. Other then… enjoyed my time with you but I don’t see a future. Break it off…

[RHK36]

Just be honest. Men only appreciate honesty at that point

[Staximus]

Tell him why. Tell him you feel like he didn't even want to hear anything you had to say