Is it weird to ask for distance when you aren’t in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I am talking to this girl and we sometimes see eachother and we’re doing really well.

But when we start to do too well she would either start a fight and ask to take distance or just straight up say she needs some distance.

Why, and isn’t it weird to ask for that when you’re not dating. Actualy isn’t it weird in general.

[HollyK21]

I agree with Abby, it’s more than distance that you need from someone like this and you should just be done. How she’s choosing to navigate her relationship with you keeps you guys stagnant, not making any real progress and just sort of floating along, investing your time just to waste it. This woman lacks emotional maturity and should probably stay single while she sorts through whatever baggage causes her to act this way. It’s not your job to fix her and it’s not fair for you to be strung along.

[Asker]

The thing is we went without a problem for a while now and things just are going better than ever.
But I feel like a problem is coming because we are growing so close again.

[HollyK21]

Respectfully, if things are going better than ever then why not make it official? Are you at the point where you’re reluctant to ask about that because you don’t wanna chase her off? The ebbs and flows of relationships are normal for couples but when you’re supposed to be in this dating phase before deciding whether or not you wanna date, you shouldn’t be going though all this.

[Abbycado]

She’s toxic. It’s not distance you need.

[Asker]

Should call it off?

[Abbycado]

Personally, yes, I think so.

[Asker]

I find myself very attached and feel like she is too. Don’t know if it’s healthy as we see.
Thanks for your input

[Abbycado]

You’re welcome and go with your gut feeling.

[Asker]

Thanks a lot!

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's a bit weird.