How do you know if someone is lovebombing you?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

This can be difficult. Because some people are genuinely great and some get attached too fast (not good) but genuinely are trying to be good to you.

Too fast…. You feel like things are getting too deep too fast and like they’re playing on your emotions. They know exactly what to tell you and do to you…. Because they did it to the last people they were with. Giving tons of physical affection, sex, saying things, and even giving gifts. Can be red flags…. If it’s too strong too soon. It should naturally take time to develop a bond with someone that deep.

They may even let you be emotional around them. Get you to open up…. And now they have things to use against you and blackmail.

They learn what to say. When you say. How to say it… Things nobody’s maybe even told you before.

It’s not good if things are too deep..: and you don’t know their values. Goals. What they want out of a relationship… Nothing like that. That’s a issue….. because those are things that need to be discussed before a relationship gets that deep.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I don't really like this new gen term lovebombing. There's simping and there isn't simping.

For example, if I talk to someone and I find out they have a lot of similarities to me when it comes to views, interests, sense of humor, goals align, we're both physically attracted and sexually compatible, then I fall for them pretty fast. I want to talk to them often and I usually bombard them in terms of communication if I don't control myself. But it's all genuine interest and not something I'm faking to get in their pants.

However, when it comes to simping, those guys will say whatever they can to get with a girl and get on her good side. You're either genuine or you're not. It's that SIMPle

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I think of it like when a guy hasn't been around or in touch with you for days, then shows up at your front door and starts kissing you a lot. A lot of hugging too. 🫂 He might keep saying he loves you if he's said it before.

He's trying to have you not mad at him for being somewhere else instead of with you lately. But we all know that he was with someone else!!

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

Unnecessary over the top compliments saying they love you after only knowing you for a short time. Now that you mention it, the new guy in your life could be love bombing you. Or he could be an old school gentleman and that’s just his personality. Unfortunately, only time will tell for sure.

Grond21 · Answer

- Excessive compliments and affection early on, declaring you "perfect" or "soulmate."
- Grand gestures and expensive gifts too soon, creating a sense of obligation.
- Moving the relationship very fast (e. g., "I love you" quickly, future plans like marriage).
- Constant communication and wanting all your time, getting upset if you need space.
- Isolating you from friends/family or discouraging time away from them.
- Ignoring or pushing your boundaries when you try to slow things down.
- Over-idealization, putting you on a pedestal without really knowing you deeply.
- Feels overwhelming or uncomfortable, rather than naturally exciting.

jazzy34 · Answer

In short, too much too soon. Extravagant, inappropriate gifts, saying things like “you’re my soulmate” “I love you”, etc shortly after meeting. There are more examples, but those are the main warning signs. Be careful as love bombing is a form of manipulation.

Zack-Bann · Answer

It’s the undertone  “Love me because I love you”  Love bombing is not natural it’s not a heartfelt declaration  It’s an overwhelming and misplaced demonstration of affection

7Phoenix7 · Answer

Real connection unfolds… lovebombing rushes.  if you even have a feeling that it’s love bombing it probably is.

Devil678 · Answer

If someone suddenly gives you love, tells you that you’re beautiful, and says he loves you just to deceive you, his true face will eventually show. Once he gets what he wants, he will turn cold and distant.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't think I've ever been in that situation before... so I really don't know how it goes

Nikki1989 · Answer

An excessive, overwhelming display of affection, flattery, gifts, and attention in a short period of time.

Screenwriter · Answer

If it feels inappropriate, pushy and, generally, crazy. AND, they won't stop.

Zionne · Answer

You'll actually feel it in the first place. Listen to you instincts.

Shiprex · Answer

They can't help sending things to you to make you notice them

ProbablyClueless · Answer

If they start making inapprorpriately large promises for the context of our connection.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

I'm not sure, I never had that experience...

Abbycado · Answer

He bites my ankles. @circushowcowboy

DJB72 · Answer

I probably wouldn't realise

beenherebefore · Answer

When they're too much into you too quicky.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

The bomb crater marks are building up….

Jerre · Answer

I’m not sure what “lovebombing” is

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

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