How do you know if someone is innocently lovebombing you?

[Anonymous]

[7Phoenix7]

They might be unaware of it. For example the guy you're with is a virgin and I'm not sure if you're his first girlfriend. But he could be so new to it all and not only super into you but infatuated even.

I don't really like it, haha.

[Asker]

Yeah it's really different from what I'm used to. I am his first everything I think which is what makes this so bad and I think why he's so infatuated. It's a lot tbh lol

[7Phoenix7]

His first everything? Yeah it definitely makes sense now! 😅

[Asker]

Lol yeah I guess he's not really lovebombing me. He's just infatuated because I'm his first everything.

[SteveO82]

Wondering why he’s so infatuated with you? Sounds like you have self-esteem issues.

[MemeSupreme]

i always assume it's manipulative or they're rushing things unless it's been a good amount of months

that's where my brain goes lol

[Asker]

With this person I don't think it's really be manipulative. I think they genuinely don't know that what they are doing could be viewed as a form of lovebombing. That's why I said innocently.

[insatiable_curiosity]

Have you brought this up with your partner while using “I” statements to express your thoughts and feelings?

[Asker]

No but I can

[MemeSupreme]

is he new to dating

[Asker]

Yes.

[MemeSupreme]

so how did you respond to him saying that

[Asker]

I just tried to be really understanding. I told him about my only experience dating was with one previous guy so I'm not that experienced either.

[MemeSupreme]

ik that can be uncomfortable

how did he take it

[Asker]

He took it fine.

[ohsheeT]

I'm not really sure what that means and if you and innocently on to it why would it be innocent

[spartan55]

Remember this guy is really inexperienced, so it's probably not a manipulative thing.

[Asker]

That's true. I have to keep that in mind. Thanks.

[NicholasRedone]

@Simslover92 hopefully he doesn't pull an American Pie 🥧 on you "I'm so nervous I'm gonna I'm gonna" - lol that infamous prejac scene lol the way all the cast of extras all react "not again" lol how the guy can't handle his load 💦😅

[NicholasRedone]

If people catch my lingo ; and the scene ; it's pre-ejaculation lol banter joke - sigh anyways sometimes I'm like the only GAG user here with a photographic memory appreciation of iconic movie shows scenes banter jokes 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Asker]

I remember lol

[NicholasRedone]

@Simslover92 I hope he won't "come" around too "early" 🤣😅💦

[spartan55]

Thanks for the MHO !

[Asker]

You're welcome!

[Genie23]

I guess you could tell he's not being manipulative or controlling when you express wanting some time for yourself, he'll let you have some space making you feel guilty. When you tell him let's take it slow and he respects it even if he overthinks a bit. Won't put pressure on you.

[LiaRaven]

They would act irrationally and in infatuation and there pattern might change immediately

[LiaRaven]

Their*

[serious]

Never heard of that term before. Does it mean saying too many positive things and compliments? or confessing love too soon?

[Asker]

Too much compliments and being overly affectionate to the point it's smothering.

[serious]

Yes I can understand that as I am always alert.

[Cormac995]

What do you mean "Innocently love bombing you?" I need more details than this

[Asker]

Like being overly affectionate and overly complimenting all the time but not really realizing that you're doing it because you're innocent. So it's not manipulative but just innocently doing it but not realizing it's overwhelming to the person you're doing it to.

[Cormac995]

Thats a bit more complicated. Do they just do those behaviors a ton of the time or do they bring it up when you're fighting and try to use it as leverage? Are they persisting when you're saying no? If that's the case, it's probably not as innocent and not ok but if this is just their average everyday behavior than yes, it's innocent love bombing.

There could be a lot of reasons for it. Some people who say those things and do those things constantly don't realize they're de valuing it and frankly often times they genuinely mean it every time. Also sometimes when you really connect with someone you can just enter a stage where you can really only describe it as smitten. If you hit that stage and feel that way I can tell you from experience you can't stop gushing because you're so in tune with your partner you're seeing everything about them from the little things to the big things and if you like what you see there it can genuinely be hard to shut up about how much you care.

As for overly affectionate I personally don't really belive in such a thing. I could cuddle all day long with a movie on the couch and studies have actually shown couples that touch each other more and have more sex have better and happier marriages and are less likely to divorce.

Humans are still monkeys touch is a HUGE part of forming social bonds and when you like someone a lot you want to have contact with them often. I literally get ASMR shivers from holding hands sometimes with someone I really like. I guess if it's all the time to the point it's distracting, I understand it being a bit frustrating but I personally love it.

Another possibility is the person your with has bonding issues, insecurities or isn't used to having this strong a bond and that can make you extra touchy feely because it makes you feel secure that they're right there with you and aren't going to disappear. In some cases, it can even be a trauma response that gives them comfort.

[Asker]

No its definitely innocent. Maybe I am just overreacting because I'm not used to someone being this way with me. My ex was never this passionate or romantic. So it's something totally new. I just have to get used to it I guess.

[Cormac995]

I frankly see it as a green flag. Guys that are focused on those things and do them a lot with you are very emotionally invested touchy feely guys like this in general assuming their not constantly asking for sex are really just the kind of guys that love deeply and are very unlikely to cheat. Frankly I see frequent physical contact as a great sign the relationship is healthy. If your SO wants this much affection they're probably crazy about you.

[Asker]

Yeah I suppose it is a green flag. Again it's something I have to get used to. He definitely is crazy about me and I honestly am kind of crazy about him.

[Cormac995]

Give it a try, you might find you like the frequent attention. Sometimes breaking the norm or trying a new approach to relationships can be healthy.

[Asker]

That's true. Thanks.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Past behavior. Have they lovebombed other people before you, and then it turned out they weren't sincere?

[Asker]

I don't think so.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

Then maybe he's being sincere.

[Asker]

Yeah I think he might be

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

If this is the guy you were talking about yesterday, I think it's probably sincere.

[Bklynbadboy12]

What's the difference if you don't like it then just talk to him about it and if that person doesn't stop then you have to go. Just so y'all women know this is why men don't express what they feel

[Asker]

It's nothing wrong with expressing how one feels but overly doing it can become a problem. But yeah definitely talking about it is the best thing to do I guess.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just know that this is a double head sword cause some guys will just say OK I'll just keep how I feel to myself

[Asker]

Then I won't say anything then

[Bklynbadboy12]

sorry but I had to be honest with you

[Asker]

Thanks for being honest. Check your inbox.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The term lovebombing needs to die out already.

[Asker]

You're right. I hate that I used that term tbh. And I realize now that that's not what it is that he's doing.

[WhitneySnow]

If they’re sincere it’s innocent. Trust your intuition.

[Babygirl_S]

I would take lovebombing over the usual “hatebombing” because many boys are like “If I ruin her self-esteem enough, she will accept my mistreatment thinking that’s all she deserves”

[NicholasRedone]

You find multiple hi's in the inbox every morning 📥 there's an inbox now? Lol 😂 😆

[NicholasRedone]

Sorry to be fluffy lol 😆

[Yohenis]

Stuttering

Shy/ he looks at you often

[MJVillarama]

If it feels genuine, consistent, and they respect your boundaries, it’s probably just excitement, not lovebombing.

[WonderingManII]

Very good question! I assume anyone that is being too kind to me is love bombing me.

[Asker]

Thanks and same.

[RedInnocent69]

Ain’t no shame in lovin’ up in someone. It’s what the world needs now, that’s there’s just too little of

[4ngriffKitty36]

Mostly understand if he has a fragile ego or having family or social issues like never been loved or cared by anyone before. Virginity and inexperience also reveals that.

[Almanprens]

You have to ask and communicate… communication is the key… don’t think about it too much, try to speak about it

[exitseven]

I do not know. Nobody ever love bombed me.

[uncutgem]

when they say they love you more than they show you.

[fish5505_87]

Maybe not sure, its really odd!

[Jennz6]

It’s easy enough for me

[AndrésC64]

I don't even know what that means. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[Lilly1979]

They never let you breath.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, it never happened to me :P

[sage2021]

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[Alex-Snow]

Is this happening to you? What is he doing?