Have you ever met/been with someone no one else compares to them?

[Anonymous]

I met someone and dealt with him for a year. It’s like we were together, but not really together. AnyWho, There were good times there were bad times. Now that we aren’t bothering with each other for almost months I can’t help to think that no one else compares. it’s like I don’t even have an appetite to go on dating sites anymore or at least right now. I match with some really really cute guys and totally my type. It’s just I’m not really into it right now. he has moved on from me but I just have no appetite to go out there seeking someone else right now. but then I can’t help to think about him every time when I’m on those apps like no one else compares. Just the thought of having to start over Again. Other guys just want sex with me And that’s not what I’m looking for. But with him, it wasn’t about that. Sure, we got intimate and stuff like that but that was never the main thing at all. The thing is when I asked for clarity from him he would just give me the runaround when I would ask what are we. in the beginning he said he didn’t wanna look dumb if I was talking to other guys and talking to him when I was bored and I said I wasn’t but then now that I’m asking for clarity, I couldn’t get it. That’s why I had to stop talking to him. I cut him out of my life. But for some reason, I just can’t shake the feeling knowing there’s no one else that can compare at least for right now.

anyone else been like this feel this way or been through it?

[Zack-Bann]

Oh yes.
It’s called falling for someone
And not just a small infatuation, but deep feelings.


I met one such girl when I was 16
My feelings for her took away any appetite I might have had for anyone else
But we were never more than friends
And years later my love for her faded but we stayed friends. And I eventually got to be with lots of women (not that it’s a flex, i would have preferred one stable partner)


Not long ago I met woman who made me feel similar. For the first time in over 10 years she cut my appetite again.
But again, she’s not available to be my partner.
Even though life forces us to see each other every day.


This time I’m trying not to let it control me
Still go on to date others
Hoping the feelings will dissipate with all the cynicism and life experience I have.


But if I’m being real the whole thing is not easy
It takes her five minutes to make me wanna be with her all day and night and it’s painful that I can’t.


So don’t worry too much. These feelings are what fuel all the love songs in the world.
You’re not alone by a long shot.
It’s gonna be ok.
We all eventually move on.
And hope that the next time we feel this way we have a real chance of getting that happiness

[Asker]

I gave up all hope. Before this one I was played I was hurt. I was manipulated by somewhat of a narcissist. After that, I wasn’t really looking for anyone. Sure I’ve hung out with guys you know the stuff like that. But I just kind of gave up for a like a couple years. I wasn’t even looking for anyone anything I wasn’t even on dating apps anymore. Until one day I just randomly decided to go on one. And I met this guy and I just swiped right and somehow we just matched. The rest was history from there only until I found out about some stuff. But yet he treated me so well at times almost as if what I have been looking for finally came into my life everything I’ve asked for. But sometimes I guess what you ask for isn’t always what’s meant for you. I guess I finally realized that. Somehow, it’s been like five months and I feel crazy I think about him every single day. Usually, I get over things when it comes to guys fairly quickly, but not too quick, but this one is just so different. It’s like I don’t even have an appetite to look anymore. Sure, I’ve had some suitors come my way and some pretty good ones, but I’m just not in the mood right now. Almost like nothing can compare. But eventually, yes, I have to move on and accept things right now. It’s just really hard for me. I’m not gonna stop living my life or let it not make me feel content. It’s just really hard right now

[sawno]

I know this all to well, I also have an ex that so far nobody compared to. And I don't mean that "I can't find someone who wants me that compares" kind of thing, I mean it in the sense that if I could pick anyone I know exists in the world there is only one who comes somewhat close and even she doesn't hold up.

Its annoying when the type I am so incredibly compatible with seems to be one of a kind. I once when I was a lot younger made up a list of traits i'd love for a partner to have. An unrealistic list in my mind. So if someone scored an 8/10 on that list she would be my dream girl or so I thought. But then she came along and scored beyond the 10 proving that the list was realistic after all and not even complete.

I do trust ill find love again, if I found her to begin with its possible right? But I also know it may take a while before I truly match with someone on the same level of depth. Having experienced true deep love I can't settle for just sex or just thinking she's not bad. I want to mean it when I say I love you.

My hearts open for it, now I just have to find her.

[sawno]

As for your situation, there's gonna be guys who love you beyond the sex. Plenty of them I think. The issue is just that the ones only wanting sex either get tossed aside or keep trying it with other girls to. So your going to run in to them quicker.

[HollyK21]

Yep! Happened to me back several years ago. I met someone that made me completely reshape my standards. We decided to end things because he was moving out of state for work and I was not in a position to go. I genuinely thought he was like a one in a million type of guy and that I’d never come across another man like him again. Fast forward to present time, I’m engaged to a man who both met and exceeded my expectations.

[Asker]

It’s just really weird no one else treated me the way he does

[Asker]

Can I send you a message? So you could probably get a little bit more insight of what I mean?

[HollyK21]

Of course! What’s your username? I’ll delete the comment after you send it🫶

[DishLady]

Been there. You just have to carry on. Allow the energy around you to change.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, my husband. I am sure there must be other men like him, but it is rare when I ever meet one. I have friends who come close, but my man is really a one-off in my eyes.

[Anonymous]

100%. I encountered one girl, my freshman year, who still haunts me. I never got the chance to actually get to know her, but I saw her basically at least twice a day.

[Asker]

I’m still haunted as well. I mean it’s still fresh like five months since we’ve been out of each other’s lives, but it just sucks. It’s like everything I asked for in a guy he came into my life. Then I realized I guess all that glitters isn’t gold or whatever that scene is

[Opinion Owner]

Hopefully you aren't stuck aslong as me.

[Asker]

How long has it been for you?

[Opinion Owner]

I first encountered her in 2016.

[Asker]

Wow, 10 years is a long time! Do you still think about it? How do you feel like what are some of the emotions you feel if you don’t mind me asking

[Opinion Owner]

Unfortunately, yes. She is the only reason why I found and visit this site. She gives me a very warm and safe feeling when I think about her. Sometimes I get butterflies.